Chaotic posted her horrifying experience and made me think about BMs and their tendencies towards physical violence. My experiences have been way, way, way less scary, but I thought I would post my experience and would love to see what you all have experienced in a similar vein.

As awful as Chaotics experience was, it put my own experiences with the BM way into perspective because I have never had to deal with something that bad. I think that woman should be locked up in a mental ward or jail.

My experience was that BM threatened to physically attack me, but she didn't follow through with it. We were working at the same job and after H left her and got together with me, she lost it and told H and two other people I work with that she was going to come in while I was working and confront me. She told H to tell me to meet her in the back alley and to have someone with me so I "wouldn't get hurt." I thought she was a complete psycho (it was the beginning of her psychotic behavior) but I was very concerned for my safety. I sometimes worked nights (this also happened in winter and it was freezing cold and my car was parked two blocks away from my work building) I went to my direct supervisor, but that was no help because she was friends with BM and completely unprofessional. She told me that she had tried her best to talk BM out of it, but her words had "gone in one ear and out the other." My boss was a total coward, backstabbing and a friend of BMs so I went above her head to the next level and she also was a friend of BMs! (both women have massive problems and I couldn't stand either one of them-in that job they promoted incompetent people to managers as a habit). The higher up supervisor is like an old version of BM. She is old and looks like a witch with long frizzy salt and pepper hair that is always in a disheveled braid. She wears frumpy hippie style clothes and is fat and out of shape. She also has an ugly face with staring blue eyes and the same blotchy skin as BM. Shockingly enough, BMs elderly clone (I shall call her Boss X) was also dumped and left for a younger, prettier, more intelligent and nicer woman and so Boss X identified with BM and projected her own problems on to her. Because of her own massive personal issues and insecurities, Boss X refused to acknowledge that me being threatened was a problem. She told me that she couldn't do anything!!!!???

TANGENT: BM was so nuts at that point that I had no idea what she was or wasn't capable of. She had taken my reading glasses that H had in his backpack and accidentally left out at BMs when he was picking up the kids and she put them in her driveway and ran over them with her car. They had cost me $200.00 which I could do nothing about, but buy new glasses. My revenge was that H and I got married just after this and I got on his insurance which paid for my glasses. The revenge part was that the insurance company messed up the address and sent my insurance statement to BMs house (that H had lived in with her) with "Mrs. NewLastName" written on it. BM not only was reminded that we were just married, but she knew I was on his insurance and that they had paid for brand new glasses for me. END OF TANGENT

I wound up going above Boss X's head to the big boss, which I will call Boss Evil. Boss Evil is completely ruthless and cold and she didn't like BM at all, but she had never dealt with this kind of situation before and she completely screwed up. She cares about one thing and that is: Money. I told her that if BM attacked me while I was working, I would sue the shit out her and the whole company (I phrased it in a more ladylike manner in real life). I had already talked to a lawyer about other issues that were happening at work as a result of my personal life and I had called her and asked her about the situation and my legal options. My lawyer said if I had alerted three bosses about the situation and expressed my concern and BM actually attacked me due to their lack of protective action, I would own the company. Boss Evil knew this and didn't want to lose a load of money in a lawsuit. She lectured me about making "personal choices" that put me in danger and had the nerve to tell me that I had made an "unwise choice" in getting together with H and that it was my own fault if I had a "hard road ahead" of me. She was completely unprofessional, but didn't want to lose money, so she said she would call BM and make it clear that she would lose her job if she threatened me or harassed me in any way while I was on the work premises. Apparently she called BM herself because BM got even more angry, but couldn't come in and attack me without losing her job. BM was so crazy and delusional at this point that she told H and others that there was no way she could lose her job. She assumed that because two of her bosses were on her side that she was invincible. What she didn't know was that the second she touched me in any way, I would slap an assault charge on her and get a restraining order that would cause her to lose her job.

Despite the bosses phone calls to BM, I still felt unsafe and so had my dad meet me at the door when I worked an evening shift and walk me to my car. BM didn't know this, but my dad (my step-dad actually, but he adopted me and I consider him my real dad) was beyond pissed that his daughter was being threatened in any way. He looks mild mannered and quiet, but he can be very scary when angry and wouldn't hesitate to risk going to jail if it meant protecting me with physical violence. He is a quiet, sweet man who is well liked and has tons of friends, but he has a wild past and years ago the wife of his brother was raped by a man that they knew. He and his brother made a little visit to the man and he wound up in the ICU for six months. He knows that violence isn't the answer to that kind of thing now, but his protective instinct is very strong and if she attacked me with my dad present, I wouldn't put money on him standing quietly and letting it happen. BM never knew how close she came to winding up in the hospital or jail.

The whole thing turned into a stupid fiasco that I won't go into, but BM was forced to desist and eventually she came to work and had to work with me at the same time. She did a different job, but was in the same work area. I have a strong professional work ethic and I was completely professional and pretended like nothing had happened. Work was for working and my personal life and issues were separate in my eyes. I ignored BM unless I HAD to talk to her for work purposes, where I was polite and unemotional. I was ultra polite and just focused and did my job, but that seemed to rile BM up even more. She has no professional sense (duh) and acted like a total freak and psycho at work. She slammed things around, yelled at me once (when no one was in the room, of course. I pretended like she wasn't there and smiled to myself, which just made her lose it even more!). She was a total wreck and came to work with food stained clothes, disheveled hair that was wet on one side and dry on the other. I stayed calm and professional and it just made her lose it. She went home "sick" every day for three weeks and she got away with it because her clone boss sympathized with her. I've never heard of anyone being able to go home "sick" every day for three weeks because they got dumped! That's like calling in sick because you have a zit on your chin! She should have gotten fired for threatening another employee with physical violence. (it took a while, but she got fired eventually! After Boss X got fired). It was a horrible situation and got worse before I finally quit.

So BM never attacked me, thank God and I am full of awe for Chaotic for handling her situation so well. I still can't believe that these crazy bitches think that they have some sort of right to damage our possessions, hurt their own kids emotionally and actually threaten or follow through with physically attacking us! It just blows my mind.