Hey yall! I am 23 years old. So my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now. He has a son who is almost 5 years old. We started dating when he was about a year old. I was around his son about every other weekend for the first few months. When he was almost a year and a half old..the biological mother got into drugs. Meth, Cocaine, all kinds of stuff. Not only did she start doing the drugs, she started selling them. She slowly started wanting less and less to do with her son. (She was not the best mother to begin with) So anyways she got caught selling drugs to undercover officers and got taken to prison. Well my boyfriend and I moved in together after a few months, so when she got sent away my boyfriend automatically got full custody. So he was living with us full time. As a woman, I automatically helped. He was not even 2 years old. I never tried to be "his mother" but I was then the only female really in his life. Well now he is almost 5. He has been living with me in a stable foundation practically his entire life. I taught him to talk,walk, potty trained him, everything up until this point. A few months back his biological mother got out of prison. She automatically started drama with me. And thats my son so on and so fourth. I from the beginning have been way nicer to her than I should be. I saved pictures for her, school work, everything. Shes been out for about 6 months now. She has supervised visitation about 3 days a month with him. She is not aloud to have overnights. She is on parole and living in someones basement. I am trying my hardest to work with her, and still not step on her toes. But when she sees him she fills his ears with stuff she shouldnt and is just trying to bribe him in anyway possbile. He is just now starting to understand who she is, but is still confused. He was a baby when she left. I try and respectivley talk to her about this, but she turns everything into drama. I dont know how to go about it anymore, because the only time he ever acts up is after his visits with her. Also she has only been out for 6 months, and has already met someone and is engaged to him, and I feel like her priority should be getting her life together for her son. But that doesnt seem to be it. My boyfriend and I are not married, so it def. makes this a little bit harder for me legally. Thoughts?