Not much new here....DH called the school again. The teacher said Yes, she spoke with BM and Yes, BM was VERY VEHEMENT that I not attend. The teacher said she didn't understand why, and she thought that it would be good for me to come...but because of BM raising such a stink about it, that wouldn't be good for SS. She never said that I couldn't go, just that having "Mom" cause a scene would not help SS. Me and H, understanding that, set up the separate meeting.

Well, before the New Year things seemed to be going somewhat all right.....SS was coming over about 2 days a week with one overnight for several weeks in a row!! :o This was a record folks!

But, now visits have dropped back to about 9 hours each week. And now, BM is starting in with her normal crap again~ she sent my DH an email informing him about SS's IEP (school appointment). They want both parents to be there ideally, and she said she needs to know if he's coming so she can tell the teachers who will be there.

Well, we tried this idea that Janice gave...to email BM from our family account instead of my DH's separate email. What happens?...two or three days go by with no word, and we need to know what's going on for Christmas. So he tried his account again. She says "You can't use the other address" (telling him again what he CAN'T do? Hello, Miss Control Freak!)~ saying "it doesn't come through right on my end". I'd like to know exactly how. It just seems like more bull to me. Now I half wonder if she didn't read the thing on here about us using that email to help show her that we're united.

I have read about several bloggers here who met their current partner/spouse out of an affair, with the BM being the ex. It might seem like I bash the BM in my case because of the affair and my bitterness out of that. I'd like to write this to clear that up...because I've thought long and hard about all of this before. While I don't agree with affairs, that doesn't mean I condemn anyone who has them. I know that, ultimately, we love who we love and that sometimes we realize we do not always love the person we're with, or that they do not love us how we want or need to be loved.