DH is supposed to have custody of SS this year~ from 12 Christmas Eve until the same time Christmas Day. Last month, BM emailed us saying "I am telling you right now that you will NOT have him for Christmas Eve", because she said that's when her household opens their gifts. Then they got into this whole exchange with DH saying he should be here and BM fighting him. Then she said her husband agreed with my husband BUT the order doesn't say she has to bring him. We said the order doesn't say we have to either, but the judge did say it needs to be worked out between the two.

This incident was a couple of weeks ago, but it's just one example of the many thing I want to vent about....

SS is 5 years old and has PDDNOS....a spectrum of autism. He is not yet potty-trained, but BM reported in an email that she had him wearing underwear for roughly a week and he had been keeping them clean for the most part, and that she had him in Pull-Ups at night.

Well, I'm probably going to spread out my "story" thus far over several different blogs. Today's issue is how I have been "banned" from having contact with BM. We had been close friends since 13 yrs. old, and even for about 2 or 3 years after I found out about the affair we would still communicate (though not well, for obvious reasons). Then one day it was just "You are not his parent, you don't have anything to do with this, all this should only be between your husband and I". It was like the past 15 years hadn't even happened in her eyes.