long story short sd14 and i set up an e-mail account for her (yeah i know first mistake). i was monitoring her one day and saw a google e-mail set up "verification of e-mail address" in her inbox already gone into. so dh and i confronted her infront of bm and her claim: "someone tapped into my account!" which we knew was bs...and bm believed her.

so dh called his 2 dd's this afternoon just to chat and OMG his eldest that is already over weight and supposed to be trying to lose weight and at 4 in the AFTERNOON she's FN asleep.....REALLY? AT 14! shouldn't she be outside playing?

so most of you saw my post last week about my sd13 cutting herself.
Well, dh talked to bm, and she said it's because sd13 wants more visitation with her dad and wants modification over with. dh told attorney over a year ago to settle it and bm denies visitation she is not "required" to allow, at all costs. So that's what sd13 said is her reason for attempting to cut herself. (there's more to her reason's but with counseling that will come out)

long story short, my dh sent modification papers stating he wanted custody of the girls to get bm to respond (it worked) this has been going on for over a year and we just got word today that the 13 sd has started cutting herself :jawdrop: , and she has said its because she's tired of the modification and wants more visitation with dad, but doesn't want to live with us (which we already addressed in front of her with the oldest and agreed that is fine).