For some reason my skids' BM is constantly emailing my husband and tell him that she's celibate and not dating anyone-according to her, that's proof she's a good mother. When she first find out DH was dating me, she wrote this super long email about how she is purposely not dating and chooses to be celibate for the sake of the kids and what a bad father he is for not only dating but introducing me to the kids. She was texting him on an almost daily basis "bragging" about her celibacy. Then it stopped for a few months. She picked it up again summer of 2011 where again she constantly tells him she's sacrificing her dating life for the kids. When she found out a year ago that we were getting married and buying a house, she wrote to DH and told him she's dating someone she's known for a long time and that "there's a real possibility" they're getting married soon too.

Fast forward to last week where after we told the boys they're having another sibling soon and I guess ss6 told BM there's a baby in SM's belly and the drama started again! She wrote to DH and demanded that "we all seat down and discuss SM's pregnancy". I swear ladies those were her words! DH wrote back telling her yes we're pregnant, the ssons are going to have a baby sister or brother soon and that there's nothing to seat down and discuss.

In the last week there's been numerous angry email from her, attacking me and DH. You can feel the bitterness dripping from her emails. He pretty much ignored most of them cause they're not worth responding to. In every one of the email she says how strong she is for being a single parent, that she's not having sex or dating for the sake of the kids, what a wonderful mother she is, and that DH is weak for finding someone to help him raise them. The one email DH responded to was when she called me the outsider and said that I better not neglect her sons now that I'm having a child of my own. He pretty much told her that while he had poor judgment when he met her and had kids with her, he's now older and wiser and knows he made the right choice this time around. He told her I'm not the outsider given that the kids are with us at least 60% of the time, we're married and having a child together; that I'm the best thing to happen to him and the kids and he knows that the ssons won't suffer when baby is here. He reminded her how much I've done for the ssons in the last 3 years despite her constant attack on me.

I'm actually proud of DH for standing up for me. A few months ago she spent about 45 minutes telling him that she changed and wants a relationship with both of us, how things will be different from now on, she even begged to be allowed to come into our home again when dropping off the kids. DH believed her, he was so excited that they can co-parent for the first time in over 3 years. For a while he was so blind that he thought I was the one overreacting when she texted him at 1130 at night, and then again at 3AM another night. But I guess you can only pretend to be a good person for so long before the real you comes out to play again. After her last batches of emails, he said he's fed up with her crap and don't believe they will ever be able to co-parent. He said he'll continue to be civil to her but that's it!