My mom left me when I was 4 years old, thankfully my dad was a wonderful dad, him and my SM did a decent job of raising me. I have so much resentment toward my mom but now that I'm about to become a mother, I thought we could mend our relationship and maybe for once in her life my mom can be there for me. But oh no! Between the drama caused by my ssons' BM and my own mother's selfish behavior, I'm out of energy!

Since I've become pregnant, my mother has called me fat several times, made negative comments about my look, criticized the way DH and I are parenting the ssons, etc... I developed sciatica and lower back pain, but God forbid I complain about my back pain and my mother goes on about how weak today's women are, how back in her days you don't complain about pregnancy pain, you just suffer in silence. She insists on being in the delivery room when I go in to deliver and yet when I share my birthplan with her, she mocks me and finds so many negative things about it. When I had pre-term contractions at 6 months, she criticized me for going to the hospital, she told me I was overreacting(which I wasn't because they had to give me meds to stop the contractions and I've been seeing a high risk doctor since).

My baby shower is this weekend and my mom is acting like it's all about her! A few friends can't make it so they sent gifts in the mail for me. My mom wants to open the gifts. This may be my one and only child, therefore the only baby shower I might ever have. My girlfriends worked so hard to make it special for me and yet I'm terrified that my mother will take the joy out of it by making it all about her!

Yesterday DH went shopping and bought a cute shirt that says "awesome little sister", my mom was there when DH showed it to me so my mother turned to me and said "your niece will be happy to see that shirt", I asked her "why would my niece be happy about my baby's shirt?", she replies "because she's the baby's real big sister!". My DH reminded my mom that my niece (my sister's daughter) is baby's cousin and that baby has two brothers, that's why he got the shirt for her.

I'm a 28 year old grown, college education, married woman who has a career, mortgage and responsibilities. I shouldn't let my mom bully me or treat me that way but most of the time when she makes those comments or acts nasty toward me, it catches me off guard and I'm in shock that my own mother is the BM from hell!

Sorry about the vent you guys, I really just needed to get it off my chest.