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Submitted by skiingkelli456 on Sun, 10/26/2014 - 6:12pm

I am very disappointed with some of the comments on my blog. I had some great comments and others that were not so much. I know that there is alot of bad crap in the world now, but making it seem like I would sit there and let my child be subject to that kid without any reprocussions. I never said that, and woulwould never let that happen EVER..I don't know how and why people would think that.

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Submitted by furkidsforme on Sun, 10/26/2014 - 7:54pm

Seriously. You married a man who's son tried to DROWN your child?

Unless his consequence was nothing short of being permanently banned from your home or presence for life or until he was mentally well, there is no excuse.

Think about this for a second... What message did you send to your child? My boyfriends kid tried to KILL YOU, but I'm going to marry the dude. WHAT?!?!?!?! Would it be any MORE possible to basically tell your child they have no value to you???

Insert "molested" instead of "attempted to drown" and realize how insane this is.

Holy cripes.

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Submitted by Ljcapp1 on Sun, 10/26/2014 - 6:45pm

I read your first post and I will say this:
Your husband is the biggest problem. He made excuses for his kid when he was being violent and it will never get better.
It's your husbands job to correct his son but instead his rotten kid gets away with hurting you and your son. He obviously doesn't have you back.
I used to like kids too. Step parenting changed me.

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Sun, 10/26/2014 - 6:46pm

I just read your other blog but I will comment here, rather than there.

First....welcome to STalk.

Second - you're going to get varied responses and you're going to have to learn to separate the chaff from the wheat.

Thirdly - There is nothing wrong with your emotions. You're only directing them at the wrong person. Your H is an ass and is trying to deflect his shitty parenting by blaming YOU for what is happening to your SS. You have a violent SS that has already attacked your kid physically, is abusing you verbally and is vandalizing your property.

All while your H sits by and blames you for his bad behavior.

How much more are you going to put up with before you leave them? Or kick them out depending on the situation??

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Submitted by skiingkelli456 on Sun, 10/26/2014 - 7:32pm

When it first happened I lit into the kid, then he was punching and smacking, I lit into the kid..so it stopped it has been a few years but....the problem is that I have the one that has been disciplining and yelling so therefore I have built up resentment. It very well now that I am typing this has something to.do with my husband not stepping in. He didn't want to upset his ex wife..and he could see no wrong..as I said I am the one who enforced now me and the kid just glare at each other...this happened 5 years ago and has built up to all this hatred.

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Sun, 10/26/2014 - 7:41pm

Is your SS still violent? Does he continue to cuss at you and call you names??

I get the resentment. My H also allowed his kid to treat me like shit and never stepped in to deal with her. Never punished her. Never disciplined her. He thought if he ignored it, she would stop. I informed him not only is he treating me with complete disrespect, he's allowing his kid to treat me the same way by allowing it to continue. By doing nothing, he all but said go ahead and treat Shaman like shit.

I nearly left him over this situation. Had I any bios and she was abusive towards them, I would have left him and never looked back.

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Submitted by Ljcapp1 on Sun, 10/26/2014 - 7:58pm

Sorry to be a cynic, but Disney parents never change. He's afraid of bm and that's an ongoing fight in my household. We've been together 4 years and my sd's are adults. There's a look into your future - sorry to say but it doesn't get any better.

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Submitted by HadEnoughx5 on Sun, 10/26/2014 - 8:43pm

I'm sorry to hear your first experience on here was a bad one but we are not all bad. Hope this won't deter you from venting on here because we all need to vent and get some support from somewhere since being a step parent isn't an easy position to be in.

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Submitted by MissElphaba on Mon, 10/27/2014 - 12:27pm

Me too... this. And the head being held under water...over my dead body would that happen.

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Submitted by WTF...REALLY on Sun, 10/26/2014 - 9:49pm

Venting is one thing, however telling people you are letting your son be abused is another. You have a choice, he does not. I would NEVER put my kids in harms way for a man. Mama bear is incapable of that.