Okay this is going to sound like I am jealous of my skid, but I am honestly not. We have a great relationship and I feel blessed to be a part of life. My issue is that I feel like DH either ignores or pays so much more attention to skid that I feel like an outsider. Case in point, we go out to eat for skid's birthday and bring my mom along. My mom adores skid and they also have a great relationship. Pretty much during the entire dinner, DH is just addressing the conversation to skid. I have no problem with that, but good communication is where all parties are included in the conversation. You make eye contact to include everyone. I didn't say anything because it was a birthday dinner, but it definitely hurt my feelings. Fast forward a couple weeks later and my Mom brings up the fact that he pretty much ignored me. Mom isn't trying to start drama, she is crazy about DH, but I felt embarrassed that it was so obvious.

I know DH loves me very much and I am grateful that they have a good relationship. We have struggled in the past with parent alienation, etc and we now have skid 7 days on and then 7 days off. I know we have the 7 days where we don't have the skid, but here is my point, I don't want to my a wife/partner for 7 days and then when skid comes I am ignored for 7 days. Skid is 15 and a great student and has friends and I have encouraged her to invite people over or if there are social things she wants to do I will take her, but she enjoys hanging out with her dad all the time.

I grew up in a family with another sibling. Our focus was the family and not just an individual. I am feeling like he goes so far overboard in the attention department that it means that I am often excluded in conversations, watching movies, etc.

I mentioned to him last night that is okay that we have a little bit of alone time while she is with us. It's hard to discuss items/issues when she is always around. Of course he gets angry and makes it my fault.

Looking for some advise!!!!