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It has just occurred to me that in the event of a conflict, DH NEVER says he is sorry....

Silent River's picture

So tired of his arrogance and his self righteous attitude. I realize it takes two to tangle, and that I am no angel, but how on earth can he be 100% right, all the time??
I feel like a cigarette butt that has been crushed by his shoe. Marriage and relationships can be so defeating and painful. Why did I do this to myself?? What...was I thinking?

Just a vent on my part.

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CBCharlotte's picture

That is frustrating, sorry to hear. My SO is the same way. Unless I sit him down and explain exactly what I did wrong and why he owes me an apology, it is extremely rare I'll get one.

Apologies seem to mean less to men then they mean to us. Maybe that is not true, but it feels that way sometimes

Needalifeboat's picture

I'm sorry you deal with this. Can you bring it up in a non confrontational way? Like hey, I noticed that when we argue and then resolve an issue I say sorry but you don't. Do you realize that you are doing that?

How would that go over?

Silent River's picture

I was actually wondering if it was a guy thing, or part of the male ego. I have brought it up to him but he seems to have selective memory and it doesn't help. Nothing ever seems to get resolved unless I am the one to take the high road. So exhausting.

z3girl's picture

My DH is like that too, and many times I feel the same way as you. It's tough. There have been times when I've vented to him and said that I know he never apologizes, and his response was "You have me pegged." Yeah.

It doesn't bother me as much as it used to. In my mind I know when I'm right, and the majority of the time, he is ridiculous. I don't care about right and wrong anymore, only about moving on and accepting my own actions.