My DH has always been good about dealing with BM, except when it comes to having SS6 more than our share of the time. I can't tell you the number of weekends he has just agreed to keep SS6 when it was her weekend because of one of her lame excuses.

Typically we're supposed to have SS6 every weekday from 3:30-8:30 and the 2nd, 4th and 5th weekends. Last semester she had a sob story about how she just had too much homework to do and we needed to keep him another weekend a month too. I was pretty upset about it, but didn't say anything.

DH was disappointed to discover as the semester progressed that she NEVER was doing homework on the "extra" weekends we were picking up. And for Pete's sake, She literally has SS 1.5 hours a day when he's awake, plus 2 weekends a month. She doesn't have a job. How can she not accomplish her homework in this time?

So, this semester started and last night she told DH "This semester has started, so I need you to start taking SS for another weekend again." DH replies "I'd rather not."

After a long pause she says "....what? Why?" DH responds "we still have a lot of stuff to get ready for the baby and those weekends are going to be important to us too." (note: I'm due in 6 weeks) She looked shocked that we might consider taking care of a newborn to be even somewhat commensurate with her homework that she wasn't even doing anyway.

I wish DH could say "I'm not taking your weekend because you don't have a job and it's ridiculous that you can't do your homework in all the time we keep him every evening" but this is progress at least.