BM's Grandmother's Funeral
My DH gets a call from BM yesterday at about 10pm. She says that she needs someone to look after SS7 on the 27th because she and her family are going to her grandmother's funeral in Indiana.
She has never once traveled with SS anywhere. He's 7! We've taken him on week long road trips and he does just fine. And this is his great grandmother too. BM says he doesn't understand, but his great grandmother lived with them for the past year or so before she moved home to make her final arrangements. He knows her, and deserves to be at her funeral. My SS is also not very verbal, so who knows what he knows?
DH says he can't take him, and the only person he can think to ask if my mother, who watches our DD4months in the afternoons. I was pissed - I don't think my mom should have to say no, and I don't think she should have to watch him.
DH says that he didn't offer to ask for her, so that my mom wouldn't feel pressured. I'm upset it was even presented as an option.
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I would agree that a 7 year
I would agree that a 7 year old at a funeral for someone they didn't know would be uncomfortable. But BM lives at her parents and the great grandmother lived there as well until recently. This is a lady that he knew all his life and lived with for the last 4 years. The great-grandmother had just moved back to her hometown about 3 months ago to make her final arrangements
My mother is NEVER a
My mother is NEVER a babysitter to my SDs. She is not their bio-grandmother and they have stated that to her face (thanks BM).
I would say no. If the kid is 7 and the grandmother lived with them for a year he knows her. I remember going to my great uncles funeral when I was 8. Kids need to have the chance to say good bye.
And setting the funeral out that far out...is grandma being cremated? If not I highly doubt that she is actually attending a funeral.
Agreed - I have no idea why a
Agreed - I have no idea why a funeral wouldn't be in the same week as her death....
There is NO way that they
There is NO way that they would let a body sit that long. None. If she is being Cremated then that is different, I could see the family having a memorial weeks after, but that would in most cases be a joyful type of event. Letting the death settle in, then celebrating the life. I see no reason why she cant take her son. DO NOT LET YOUR MOTHER BABYSIT.
When did this woman pass
When did this woman pass away? Why is the funeral a month away? I can't imagine any funeral home/morgue keeping someone for that long when they died of natural causes? I'd be questioning BMs story here. Is there any way you can check funeral homes or state records to see if she is lieing?