It keeps adding up
So the past few weeks have been pretty expensive. I do not want to be a heartless SM, even though I keep threatening DH that I am going to be, I am just so sick and tired of spending money on SS when BM will not pay child support. in the past few weeks DH and I have spent at least $250 on him this includes, special food that he will only eat for his lunch, clothes, and family activities. Don't get me wrong I love my SS, but you would think that BM would want to make sure her kid is taken care of, and I am really sick and tired of making up her part of everything, I think it is totally wrong that she still gets visitation when she does not pay child support, isn't there a law against that?
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There isn't a law. You
There isn't a law. You cannot withhold visitation due to lack of support, and you cannot withhold support due to lack of visitation. I've not seen it any other way, although perhaps some on the boards have. The courts in my experience look at it as two different and separate issues.
I have to agree with Daddysgurl...
or you'll fall into the same category that all of us SMs have such an issue with. You can't punish BM using SS. And by withholding SS from BM, wouldn't that make your "expenses" worse not better? Having him more would cost you more. And wouldn't that hurt SS in the long run?
I understand your frustration, financial support IS part of being a good parent but can't you go back to court if she is actually liable to pay?
Yes but.....
yes, but then that takes time and money too... I guess the whole thing is like you said "frustrating", not to mention BM does have money, being supported by new husband, because her lazy butt does not want to get a job, but she just wants to spend it on SS when he is on visitation with her, she doesn't care to help out with his everyday necessities.