I was asked for an update, so I decided to drop by and let everyone know what's been going on with my life.

As far as how I am doing... I've never been better! Let me tell you... the freedom of not having to worry about ex DH, Blabb, and Warthog is absolutely amazing! It is so incredible, I cannot even describe it in words. I love the fact that I can go where I want when I want and not have my plans intervened by Warthog. I don't have to waste all my money anymore on ex DH's bills cause he would waste his whole paychecks on Blabb and Warthog. I don't feel like I'm being weighed down anymore. I feel so free, and it is such a beautiful sensation.

School and work have been keeping me extremely busy, but I have been able to see my friends and be my age. I haven't been able to go out and be my young self for years. Ex DH noticed me going out with my friends more often and accused me of being out of control. This really ticked me off because he is trying to make me feel bad for breaking away and finally being able to be social with people my own age. I think he's just jealous cause I have money to have fun with friends and he's stuck at his mom's with no money because Warthog face snarfs all of it. Whatever! Not my responsibility. It never should have been my responsibility, but I have learned my lesson... and I will never make that mistake again! It's interesting... because my mom always taught me to never let a man walk all over me... and I always believed I was independent and no man could take advantage over me or control me. But now I see how I was wrong. :/ Ex DH was in control of me... he took advantage of me... everything about our marriage was a one way street and I was the only one who worked for it. It was a very poisonous... unhealthy marriage. And it's unfortunate it turned out that way because he can be a good husband sometimes.

We are still talking. Unfortunately my dad won't let me keep Beaux at his house because he doesn't want to take care of Beaux while I'm at work and school. So Ex DH has Beaux as of right now, but I am trying my best to find my own place so I will be able to keep my baby for good. Hopefully I can get an apartment before I take Ex DH to court cause I want complete custody over Beaux. I don't think Ex DH deserves him. I pay for EVERYTHING with Beaux. I pay for his food, his toys, and all of his essentials. Just last week we had to take him to the vet for heartworm test, and who paid for the visit? I did. Did Ex DH put anything in to help? Of course not. I'm grateful Ex DH has been willing to keep Beaux while my dad won't let me take him in... but what will happen if Ex DH gets full custody? He can't afford anything for Beaux. As far as everything else, Ex DH won't get anything. I own everything in my house. EVERYTHING. He has not put a single penny into anything we owned in there... so why should any go to him? I'm probably sounding like a BM right now, but I don't care. Why should I show Ex DH any mercy when he has shown me nothing but disrespect and a compete disregard for my feelings these past couple of years. I own that man nothing.

As far as the house... I'm in the process of selling it. It's all cleared out, and I'm hoping I can get this process out of the way so I can concentrate on the divorce, which won't be until the summer. The house is listed under my name only, and not Ex DH's so he has no say in what I do with it. Why should he? He never helped pay a single bill. NADA.

With Ex DH's family... well, let's just say they are upset. Not at me... but more at the situation. I love them to bits, but I haven't been over as much as I have been when I was with Ex DH. It's hard because I don't know what kind of relationship I am allowed to have with them if me and Ex DH are no longer married. I don't know what is appropriate. Perhaps a casual relationship? Maybe when the fire settles down?

Blabb doesn't say anything to me anymore. It's worse than before. Ex DH and I have a bowling league with two of our friends, and since it ends in two weeks, I decided to stick with it since I put money into it. And every Saturday Blabb has come over to the bowling alley. Has she said hi or asked how I've been or at least waved to acknowledge me? Nope! Oh well. I'm not crying over it! I don't have to deal with her brattyness anymore. Woohoo! Oh, and not to mention Warthog comes to the bowling alley now to come pick Blabb up... and she always has this smug look on her face. Do I care? Heck no! That woman can keep leeching off of Ex DH for all I care. I hope that for his sake he will finally grow a spine and keep it! If not, too bad for him. I don't care if Warthog sees this as a "victory" because guess what? I'm a free woman! I can find a man who will love me and respect me and treat me the way I deserve to be treated. I'll accomplish my dream and be a doctor and help many people in need. I'll have a family that I will raise properly and not guilt parent them and not let them run the house because children are not supposed to be the parents! Meanwhile, Warthog will remain alone because she is a bitter old hag who leeches off of men and bitches and moans when she doesn't get her way and controls everything because everything has to go the way she wants them to go. When Blabb grows up, she'll be out of control... I wouldn't be surprised if blabb got pregnant, got into drugs, got into trouble with the law, got into physical with Warthog, etc. It's not who is victorious anyway. It's about doing what's right for me.

Ex DH keeps asking me why we couldn't have talked this out... why I didn't give him a second chance. This blows me out of the water because I have tried to reach out for him. We tried therapy... we tried talking it out and changing things about me and him. What happened? He always fell back to the same routine. He certainly can't blame me for this when he would never listen.

I no longer feel guilty about this whole thing. At first I did because I wanted our marriage to work, and this hurt more than anything. But now I have been able to look at our marriage from the outside... and I realized how horrible it really was, despite me trying to sugar coat it. I'm so glad I broke free, and I can't wait to live my life without the burden of Ex DH and his spoiled rotten demon child and his bitchy ex wife.

Lesson learned, ladies. I'm never making the same mistake again! Never EVER ever EVER date/marry a man with children. EVER.