His Kids Annoy Me - is there better?
First. I'm so glad you guys are here. Why didn't I find you sooner!!!
I have been a single gal all my life. I met a man whom I adore. He has two girls and they annoy me. They are boring and ungrateful at times. I try my best to see it from their view what it's like to welcome their dads girlfriend but frankly Im over it. How much do I have to smile and babysit them? I just don't want to deal with them.
I've contemplated leaving my boyfriend because I wonder that there maybe a guy out there who is single with no kids. Moments like Yesterday where I was annoyed with him and then make me want to jump ship quickly.
On Father’s Day. My boyfriends youngest daughter and him got into it and she lived on the floor until I got her onto a bed. she has severe issues but my boyfriend and his BM refuse to get her professional help even when it escalates. I sympathize with the parents recognizing how guilty and painful it may be but frankly. She can't get on like this.
There has always been the constant belief that the older sister gets way more attention than the younger one. So I’m not sure if that is part of the problem or not.But anywho. I try to engage them both. I have also used cleaning the house as an excuse to keep my distance when they are here. So I only engage them During meals. So yesterday
I’m conversing with the little one and I’m asking about summer school online.She says she is in a camp. I say who is in your class.She says I don’t know them. I’m like well. How many girls. Etc. she says I don’t know.
I’m like in my mind. How don’t you not know the kids in your class if you are all on zoom and have discussion.
My BF then says "babe" so I stop. And we end up having this full on conversation with the older one for a while neglecting the little one. Today while I'm taking with my BF he brings it up like I was interrogating his daughter. It annoys me because frankly, I don't want to even talk to your damn kids and this is why I defer them to you. Plus during quarantine I have to see them when I don't want to.
And what pisses me even more off is that Literally while she was in school. Her teacher said that she didn’t attend all her classes and she would go on YouTube.So how is it that she’s in camp. Having discussions but she don’t know the make up of her class.
so in the end- I'm getting commondeared for your trying to engage with your child who has issues but your saying that I'm the one with issues . Please tell me it's okay to avoid outings with them once quarantine is over. I don't neeed to spend time with them. They are his kids
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Omg, we are so in the same
Omg, we are so in the same boat!
This is my first experience seriously dating a man with a kid. the idea of a family unit sounded pretty nice actually. I started this relationship with rose colored glasses about how being a (potential) step mom could be.
When his son (who's 11, btw) isn't around we have the perfect relationship. The first couple months even with the kid around were pretty great. But now this kid is making my life hell with non-stop stream of nazi/hateful garbage and tons of shitty comments about me taking attention away from him. My BF does not address *any* of this besides having little "father son talks" which are completely useless.
I think I'm over it.....
We are definitely in the same
We are definitely in the same boat. When the kids aren't around. It's wonderful and EVERYTIME they come and leave. He and I have like a day where our relationship is on the rocks. It sucks. And they never want to do anything cuz they don't want to rock the boat wit the BM or set freaking boundaries.
It's not necessarily an issue
It's not necessarily an issue of finding a childless man, although that would be ideal (just less baggage, overall), but more of an issue of finding a man who is a good parent.
You know that this one is not, and that will affect your entire relationship, for the entire duration.
You're right
You're right
Remember your BF is on his best behavior now.
Trying to rope you in. It's only going to get worst. Two remember you are only one BM accident, or BM finding a new boy toy away from haveing SK full time.
Relationship Update
So I'm pretty sure we broke up tonight. I miss him and want to run after him but the feeling of relief of not having to deal with his kids EVER feels soooooooooooooo good at this moment. I know the tears will come Mostly from pain but eventually and sooner I hope from joy that will come too from not dealing with BM and his kids. A long shot but does anyone have a reason why I should work it out?
A long shot but does anyone
A long shot but does anyone have a reason why I should work it out?
Nope. And when you meet someone who doesn't have kids, or their kids are not completely annoying, you will be glad that you didn't settle.