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hello im so glad i found this web site oh my can i vent yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

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Submitted by sarajo on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 10:33am

Smile id like to start of by saying ive known my husband for 15 yrs. well we were high school sweet hearts went our separate ways after schools he married wife #1 and had a son. well he divorced her because she couldnt keep her pants on now my husband has custody of his son which is now 13. mother of the 13 yr old is top notch LOSER. then we have wife #2 well guess what to sum it all up she did the same and he has a daughter that is 6 mother of this one is annoying but no real issues besides she wants to make everyones life misurable. I have been married before and have a 10 yr old son then i meet my daughters dad after i was divorced never married him and shes 4>>>> so 4 kids with differant mothers or fathers.. well lets start out with my kids can never do anything right ive been married for 3 yrs. this silly shit should be gone by now.. his 13 yr old soon is a ass hole to say the least if i ask him a question he seriously looks at me and turns the other way but oh u better belive if he wants money you know were he comes. i have never seen a kid so disrepectful to a woman in my life. he has lied, stole , cheated, from me and his father .. then lets go to my son the one that just wants love and acceptance, his father could care less about him, so he looks appon his step father for acceptance which he typically gives him. now his 6 yr old brat she does the hole dadddyyyy dadddyyy think how old are you the 4 yr old dont do that crap. the 4 yr old is winny well what i guess i want to know is why is it okay for his kids to do it and not mine i don't get it... my 10 yr old son has never even thought about back talking me before and now all of sudden he does welp wonder were he got the fact that he could from ummmmm the 13 yr old wow cause he can treat me like he wants talk to me in any way do anything he wants no matter who it hurts what do i do i cant punish the 13 yr old

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Submitted by alwaysanxious on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 10:49am

Welcome!!!

I dated my SO in high school too. We went our separate ways. After I became widowed we happen to start talking again (through mutual friends we reconnected) and started dating again. He was with his wife for 12 years and had two children. She cheated on him and eventually told him to leave. Although I am not stupid, there are two sides to that story and I'm sure she was seeking to be with someone who loved and respected her instead of just being there cause he knocked her up.

I have an SD15 and SS12. SD15 is rude, entitled and spoiled. I get a lot of snide looks and attitude from her. its to a point where I hate her as well. I can't even look at a picture of her without having a physical reaction. She is even worse towards her own mother. Due to the fact that SO and BM were never "couple like" I think they treated their children as their proxy's. SD I think feels as if she should be the only female in SO's life. SS12 is actually ok with me. He and I get along.

You are in a position where a lot of us find ourselves. We are given responsibility of a skid, and no authority. A lot of us disengage for some time to try to "wake up" our DHs/SO's. Mostly though its for our own sanity. In my own situation with the attitude, I have gotten to the point where I don't even talk to SD. I have literally ignored her the whole weekend she is here. We don't have to put up with the dirty looks and snide remarks. If you take yourself out the the interaction, there is no where for them to go with their animosity.

Stop giving him money for anything. Tell him if he wants something, he has to earn it. That's dad's problem, not yours.

Hope you find steptalk helpful!!