I need a reality check. At my sd confirmation, we had planned everything and her bm decided not to come to our house afterwards for the gathering for her. So after church, I was going to head home to get the finishing touches done on the food and my husband asked me rather urgently to wait because his ex wanted to take pictures with everyone for her bd. (I should say that we share custody 50/50) Anyway, while there my so's ex told him to come over to her for a family picture and then she also pulled their BS into the picture as well. She then pulled everyone in close. After that I was a teeny bit furious because after taking pictures with her new husband, the comment was made, "Lisa I suppose we should get at least one picture of you with my children." I have no problem with pictures to mark events but I think family pictures are different now. We are all a family. I am really trying to be civil but his ex has now started telling people that I work with that I was seeing her husband behind her back and the truth was that she stepped out on him their last nine years of marriage. I try to be fairly even keeled but am I out of line for her to now be labeling family pictures as pictures of her and her ex with the kids and her and her new husband? I try to make events special for all of our kids. My SD and SS were told by their mother that I am the only reason that their mom and dad don't get back together. That is not good for the children at all. I am really confused because my ex and I have a great relationship! I really mean that. What do I do and how should I define family pictures?