I need a reality check. At my sd confirmation, we had planned everything and her bm decided not to come to our house afterwards for the gathering for her. So after church, I was going to head home to get the finishing touches done on the food and my husband asked me rather urgently to wait because his ex wanted to take pictures with everyone for her bd. (I should say that we share custody 50/50) Anyway, while there my so's ex told him to come over to her for a family picture and then she also pulled their BS into the picture as well. She then pulled everyone in close.