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Is this normal behavior for 10 y/o???????

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Submitted by rottierunner on Tue, 09/28/2010 - 4:17pm

I don't have bio kids so I am not sure if my judgement is too harsh or ....

Last night FDH, SD10, and I were having dinner when the doorbell rang.
SD10 jumps out of seat, hides behind the kitchen cabinet and says "I am scared." When I go to answer the door, she's freaking out and asking her Daddy.."Who is it ?" (over and over)
It was a politician.

So my FDH doesn't notice or take issue with the behavior..
WTF ?
We live in a very safe neighborhood, and have a 100# rottweiler.

I think the skid shows an unusual amount of fear for her age (rain and thunderstorms, strangers at the door, goth kids or anyone with different hair, etc)

Am I wrong ?

Opinions and similar complaints welcome...

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Triggerfishgal's picture

Submitted by Triggerfishgal on Tue, 09/28/2010 - 4:20pm

My FSS8 does this too. It's for attention, not so much actual fear. Now, lightning he IS afraid of, but he had a nightmare about getting hit by lightning, so that one I can understand. But he takes it waaaaaay over the top for every little thing that "scares" him. And I noticed that it only scares him if Dad is around, or if he gets any reaction. And he looks at me first, so I just ognore the trigger or his reaction, and don't reward the attention seeking behavior.

Anxious to see what others say, though!

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Submitted by caregiver1127 on Tue, 09/28/2010 - 4:21pm

My SS is the same way afraid of everything - when I had DD and she would fall and bump her head he used to ask me if she was now brain damaged. It would get so annoying because he would try to limit her mobility till one day I yelled at him to leave her the hell alone or I was going to lock him in a cage - mind you he was 13 when this was happening. He is soon to be 17 and still annoys me with his constant hovering but luckily it is only 4 weeks a year.

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Submitted by overit2 on Tue, 09/28/2010 - 4:29pm

No-not very normal-I'd say it's probably a result of parents that were way to over-protective when their kids were young. Also overly strict parents tend to have fearful kids.

The ones that yell no at every move, slap hands when they are babies-etc...kids dont' learn how to explore the world w/out fear of punishment. They associate anything new with fear. So that's possible also.

It also COULD be some kind of sensory issue? LIke some kids are extra sensitive to temperature changes, tactil (clothes) changes, abrupt moves/noises. But no-not typical for a 10yr old.