SKs and BM are on vacation. Since they have been gone SO is the man I want to be with.  The change is incredible and it makes no sense why he can't be like this all of the time. The kids don't stay with us so his stress about them should be almost like it is while they are out of town. But I know as soon as they get back he will start his high anxiety again.  The life I want will be gone again. I  will be making a decision about what I need to by September. We have a vacation scheduled and paid for and other friends are going so I want to wait until after that. 

I have been working really hard at, I guess,  disengaging. I have told SO at this point I don't want anything to do with his kids. I have stopped going to sporting events, I don't ask about them , etc. I have shut him down when he starts to bring them up and I say all I want to know about them is when you ,SO, won't be home because of SKs so I can plan my days.  He is definitely upset about this. Kids don't stay with us so it really isn't that hard as long as SO keeps his pie hole shut about them. But I am sure SO had been begging SS to come down and hit balls in the garage for practice.

Now BM is adding to the disrespect issue. I have not been filled on everything but she text SO to tell him he has to take SS to this pool party. She then started on him saying he is a bad dad and that the kids can't stand him . She said the last time SD watched the pets we left no food for her to eat. We always , always specifically ask her what she wants and I got the things the night before we left since I had to go to store anyway. She doesn't even eat what we buy. The time before she ate one tiny bowl of salad, and I mean tiny. And she is paid for watching the pets.

Well I might get some grief for this post. Several weeks ago someone I dated for a few months before my now SO, reached out to me. I had planned his oldest sons graduation party and the second one just graduated. He wanted to find out a certain vendor I used. I think he could have found one on his own but whatever.  I did answer and gave him the information.  The company still had all my information and I was getting all the updates. I would forward to him.  He would respond with how well I did the party before etc. Norhing bad.