So, SD15 has an AWESOME, most teens would kill for, job this summer at the local pool working with kids in the weekly summer camp program. She is supposed to be working Tuesday through Friday, 7:30am to 12:30pm. Today I get up and she is still sleeping in bed. When I woke her up, she informed me that she and another girl switched shifts for today and that she doesn't have to be at work until 12:30. Okay, I'm fine with that, sounds like she is being responsible and getting things done on her own. Good for her, I think to myself. What was I thinking? I take my kids and go to the grocery store to get a few things. On our way home, at 12:35 I see SD15 just leaving our house on her bike. What?! She is supposed to be at work already...what's up? She sees me, too, and I can tell by the look on her face as I pass by her on the street that she is caught. She calls my cell phone about 5 minutes later to tell me not to worry, she's not late to work, she talked to someone and says the shift doesn't actually start until 1. I'm not buying it, but I give her a bit to get there and I call her work to "make sure she made it there safely." WHAT?! Surprise, surprise, SHE'S NOT THERE! So now I'm trying to figure out where she might be. I get on FB and realize there is a tag for her on there from one of her friends. It says, "YAY! SD15 is coming over and greasy goth chick you need to come over, too!" Ok, now things are making sense to me, a little bit. I find this friend's phone number in my little phone book and call and ask for SD15. I kinda figured I would get a lie or the runaround,or something, but they actually told me she was there and gave her the phone. I asked SD15 why she wasn't at work, and she gave me a story about getting all the way there and they told her they didn't need her because there were too many people. I told her I didn't believe her and she needed to get home, NOW! She came home and I talked to her. I told her I wanted to know what was really going on. She then told me that she had talked to the girl that was supposed to work her shift this morning on FB and found out she didn't go and was now going to work her own shift and the SD15 should probably not even go becuase there would be too many people. My question to her, "why didn't you tell me what was going on and ask if you could go to your friend's house instead of lying to me about it all?" SD15's reply, "I figured you would get mad." Whatever, I think she is full of shit and never intended to go to work today. Why can't she just be honest with us? I don't understand what is so hard about that. She goes out of her way to lie to us about stuff and I cannot comprehend why. It always blows up in her face, and she never learns from it. I think there is something way more going on in her brain than just the fact that she is a teenager. I understand that the teenage years are tough, but I don't remember going out of my way to lie to my parents about things that I could just ask them about and get an answer for. If she would have just talked to me in the first place, assuming what she has told me is anywhere near the truth, I would have said "sure, go to your friend's house and hang out for the afternoon, and enjoy the extra day off." But, no, she didn't even give me the chance to say anything, just decided she would keep it all from me and do whatever the heck she pleases. I knew something like this would happen. All we asked was for her to behave herself for the 3 weeks that DH has to be away for training and she can't even do that. I am really hoping that by the end of the summer she is off to live with BM for the rest of her teenage years. I don't know how much more I have in me to give when all she does is stomp all over me every chance she gets.