Is it too much to ask...
that SD15 and DH keep me in the loop on stuff? Apparently, SD15 is going to the mall after school today with a friend. The only reason I know anything about it is because I just looked at her FB page and there is a post on there about it. I don't have a clue if DH even knows anything about this, but she isn't supposed to do that kind of stuff without asking us first. I would have been extremely irritated when she didn't come home after school and I didn't know where she was. I don't think it's too much to ask to be informed of this stuff, seeing as how I am the one home when she gets out of school. I hate that I am getting the feeling that we are going right back to where we were before with all the lying and decieving...
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Nope not too much to ask at
Nope not too much to ask at all. After all, you could have made plans to be at the mall yourself with friends. Instead you choose to be there when she gets home from school. A double standard is never right. They should include you in on their plans so you know how to plan your day. It is a matter of respect.
Let go of the outcome. She's
Let go of the outcome.
She's 15 and doesn't have to be your worry if you stop allowing it to be.
If they want you out of the loop, then get out of the loop. DH just needs to realize what that entails. He can't have it both ways... he can't expect you to assist in parenting his daughter on a convenience basis.
I've decided to just not
I've decided to just not worry about it anymore...she can take things up with her father from here on out and if she's not home after school I'll assume they talked about it and he knows where she is. I'll just tell her from now on to take all that stuff up with DH and they can figure out how she will get home because it won't be me going to pick her up and cart her around if they can't let me in on what's going on. I bend over backwards for ALL of my kids, including SD15, and I don't think it would be too terribly inconvenient for them to at least let me know that she's not coming home after school so I can make plans to do other things if I need to. I'm trying hard to let it go, but it's hard.