Step Daughter - Spoilt Brat
I was brought up to respect your elders, have manners, be grateful for what you receive.
SD9, had no manners, she frowns at me when I ask her to thank DH for supper. Or if he does anything for her. She has a "expect" attitude, that everything she wants or needs will be given. Bio Mom buys SD9 with material things, she isn't "present" in her life. Then expects to be given the same by us.
There is No Thank You's, No Please, Snatches things when it is given to her.
I have also noticed how she imitates us. She will copy us to the T, when we eat together. If we have a sip of our drinks while eating, she will also. Weekend mornings she makes her own breakfast, only later when we get up, we may have eggs on bread for example, even though she has eaten, she will want the same just because DH is having. & low and behold she doesn't eat cos she's full.
This infuriuates me, with wasting food. We go out to eat and DH will order her a burger & chips, or nuggets & chips. Which she only ever eats the chips because she's now full and the rest goes to waste. If we have a take-away, it mostly gets thrown out because it just sits.
Bio Mom allows SD9 to do dancing, which she leaves at the Centre alone after dark. SD9 has to wait for outside the centre alone. Bio Mom clearly doesnt give a damn about her own child.
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Oh this is my SD14 to the
Oh this is my SD14 to the "T". It's all attention-seeking behavior.
When SD would get up before us and we knew she'd already eaten since her dirty dishes were in the sink (heaven forbid you actually take five seconds to open the dishwasher and put them in there SD!) we'd ask her "how long have you been awake?" If she answered less than an hour or so, we'd make our breakfast and would allow her to have an apple or banana if she was still hungry (she never was!). If she answered more than a few hours, we'd make her a plate but she was expected to sit at the table until it was finished. After a few times, she stopped asking us to make her a plate because she didn't want to sit there all day while her food got cold.
Going out for dinner, she'd eat SO much that it was too expensive to take her. We started just going to buffet-style places because otherwise, it was like 3 adults going to dinner. Since she wasn't getting her way, she stopped asking to go out to dinner with us!
She also has no manners and she's much older than yours but still acts way younger. Drove me insane with her incessant "DADDDDDDEEEEEEE" baby talk. And I addressed your other post about her constant need for physical attention and affection.
Our SD's could be twins separated by a few years. Very frustrating. But, your DH has to set boundaries and rules and most importantly, STICK WITH THEM and be 100% consistent. Otherwise, this kid is only going to get worse and you'll be the one who suffers the most!
Hi Mel, Thank you for your
Hi Mel,
Thank you for your comment & relating to my situation. You are so right about DH making a stand, but He doesn't SEE what I do. He thinks i am too hard on SD9. & i must agree I can let up a little, but I cannot completely back off, otherwise SD9 walks all over me, & is extremely disrespectful. & with BM doing absolutely NOTHING to give her daughter some behaviour ettiqute, morals, values etc. I dont know if there is any hope of what this child is going to grow up to be.
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