My DH received a few texts from BM last night basically stating that sd14 would not be allowed over to inlaws house due to them not keeping an eye on her. So DH calls her up, and the screaming match begins.
BM is stating that sd14 is running around my her cousin and my cousin (they are 15-16yrs old) and meeting up with a boy at a local park. Half the time BM drops sd14 off its not even DH weekend and he is at work. But apparently DH is just allowing sd14 to run wild.
I have to laugh at this because #1. BM just drops this kid off without confirming its ok #2. BM allows both skids to run wild thats why the older girl was knocked up at 16!
So then DH gets on the phone with sd14 and all i hear is "STOP LYING!" over and over. Well i will tell you why she lies, Its because both DH and BM ignore the fact that she lies, and when it becomes an issue its "She's had a F*cked up life" Umm????
Then they freak out when she's trying to get with some 20 something year old guy, but then its like it never happened after the initial freak out.

Both DH and BM dont want to acknowledge this kid has developmental issues, instead you have BM putting this kid on meds for ADHD and a DH that refuses to accept that he needs to be sure that she is taking the medication while she is in his care.

The only time a problem is addressed is when its at the point where BM and DH cant avoid it anymore and then here comes the screaming match.
Call me crazy, but why doesnt somebody be more PROactive instead of REactive?!?