Having a kid arrested as a criminal then praising that POS kid as "tough"? :? Having a nearly adult kid be a whining manipulative punk then getting parental praise as cute? :? etc....

If I had ever been arrested my parents would have kicked my ass then talked to me about it later. Hell if they ever got a note home from a teacher about my behavior they would have kicked my ass first then talked to me about it later.

Pretty much police officers, teachers, principals, etc ... were right and I would have gotten my ass kicked if they had anything to say about my behavior other than "he is a good kid".

I don't get this whole need for people to rationalize that even POS kids are praise worthy.

I did get brought home by the police once when I was ~10 or 11. A bunch of kids had been playing in a large field near our house when a 16yo girl pushed me in to a pond. When I crawled out of the pond the girl was squatting by the pond so I walked up behind her grabbed her by the back of her belt and flipped her in to the very muddy pond. I did not know at the time that she was squatting by the pond with a 2yo between her knees so they both went for a swim. As soon as I realized that there was 2yo in her arms I jumped in an helped them out. As soon as they were out I started walking home to clean up. The mother of the 2yo called the police. I was walking home when a group of kids ran up to me and dragged me back to the mother of the 2yo's house. There were several bloody noses, bloody lips, black eyes, scratches and bruises by the time the crowd dragged me in to her living room. I was a torn up mess because I fought the mob the whole way.

The mom of the 2yo wanted me arrested, the cop put me in his car and drove me home. He would not let me out of the car when we got to my house and proceeded to knock on my parent’s front door with his baton. When the door opened he attempted to step in to our home. My dad promptly put his hand on the officer's chest and shoved him out the door and informed him that he would not enter the house unless he was invited or unless he had a warrant. That was one pissed off young cop. My dad then instructed the police officer to get me out of the car and bring me to the house. The officer did what dad told him to do. Dad pulled me in the house and closed the door in the officer's face. I explained what had happened. Only then did dad invite the officer in. By then there were two more police cars in front of the house including a supervisor.

To shorten an already very long bloviation .... the supervisor came in and spoke with dad, admonished the young cop for trying to push my dad around in his own home, there were no charges pressed and eventually the young officer became a pretty close friend of my parents. He actually knew me by name and we would say hello to each other and talk by the time we moved 4 years later.

I did get an ass chewing for pushing the 16yo in the pond and admonished for not just "walking away" after I was shoved in to the pond but I did not get in trouble. I for sure did not get praise from my parents.

My point is this. What happened to consequences for the stupid shit that kids pull and parents of POS children actually being embarrassed because their kids are a POS?

A criminal child who gets thrown in jail for a crime does not deserve anything but getting their ass kicked by their parents. Praising the kid for being "tough" is just BULLSHIT and makes absolutely no sense. No wonder the kid is a POS with parents who praise that kind of crap.

IMHO of course.

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