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A little more about my visit with bio dad

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Sun, 01/12/2014 - 9:35pm

He couldnt get over how much I look like him and I gave him pics and he loved them.

of course he asked why mom never told him, I told him that she didnt want to rock his boat since he was seeing someone. He said that he only had 2 dates with her at that time. Which she is his wife now.

I also got to meet my other brother and i told him ha ha you have an older sister. lol he thought that was funny.

Biodad wanted me to sit next him and that meant my dh had to sit on the other side of my son as everyone else already sat. but he said it was ok b/c he knew that he wanted me to sit next to him.

It was only an hour and a half but biodad wants to take us all camping when the weather warms up for the weekend to get to know us. i cant wait but now I have to get a tent. lol

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Sun, 01/12/2014 - 10:06pm

Yes it is and thanks. im just so happy it went the way i was really hoping it would,. not every story turns out so well which is why every single parent needs to tell their kids the truth no matter how hard it is and the father as well. I feel as though I missed out on a lot especially with the way my other brother said how much of a hands on dad he was. I never had that. I feel as though my life would have been so much better if mom had have let him be in my life.

Plus for all those moms who think by not telling would rock the boat think again all you are doing is making your kid hate you and never have the same feeling for you ever again. Believe me I lost a lot of respect for my mom in all this.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Mon, 01/13/2014 - 12:06am

Thanks ladies. i do have a question, how can i keep on with seeing and talking to him while we wait til the weather warms up?

i dont want to seem intrusive or make him feel like Im bothering him. Since we dont know each other i dont really know what to talk to about. or even what kind of excuse would i have to call him?

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Mon, 01/13/2014 - 6:40am

I am so happy for you. Does he live near by? I would think that getting together once a month for dinner or something would be good. E-mail is a great tool. When I found my bio dad we e-mailed back and forth a few times a week. Both of us would think of something we wanted to know about each other and just ask or we would find a picture or something and just send it.

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Submitted by ltman on Mon, 01/13/2014 - 5:50am

Let him set the pace. Congratulations. Reunions rarely go this smoothly. When I talked to birth mother she made clear that would be the first and last contact she wanted with me. And it has been.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Mon, 01/13/2014 - 6:34pm

thanks so much i did text him and asked when his bday is but no answer yet. however the last few times i text it took him about a day to answer.
i appreciate the support I got here going through all this, and I do believe that it will take time but we will get to a point that we will have a good adult relationship. At this point that is all we can expect anyway.