Holy crap the skids called dh on his bday!!!
:jawdrop: This is the first time ever that the kids called him on his bday. Now let me explain a little here, yes the boys are old enough to remember a bday however lets remember they are kids and boys at that. I feel as though the bm SHOULD remind their kids that their dad bday is soon and on what day to call him. Especially if she is CP.
I blogged a while back that dh and bm got in to it b/c she seems to think that everything should go through her and not the kids. However dh told bm that they all have their own phones and he can call them. She of course said that she is mom and that it should go through her. Dh told her then ok fine if everything should go through then what about having them call me on my bday and other days and you are the mom!
So this year they called huumm wonder who reminded them???? LOL
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Good for you PD. I'm glad. My
Good for you PD. I'm glad. My Skids called their Dad for his birthday this year too. Hmmmmm who reminded them?? Gosh if Bm's can't do their job properly, us SM's need to step up to the plate.
SS 25 got pass this year
SS 25 got pass this year because DH BD was the day defore her wedding. SS20 who I reminded the night before of course only called after my DH sent him a text message at 9pm that it was his birthday. SS20 claimed at the wedding he was just about to call. Really - you have no job and nothing to do and it took you all today to call. DH keeps telling me SS20 is not so self centered anymore - WTF. Still a big mooch and that is why I dont want to spent one minute with him.
I am done reminding - they should know but it kills me because it hurts my DH's feelings.
My wife is the CP and she has
My wife is the CP and she has never reminded SS to call anyone in the SpermClan on their B-day. They are not her family, why should she remember the days of sorrow that they were born on? :?
None of them call SS on his birthday, Thanks giving, Christmas, new years, HS graduation, etc, etc, etc...... Not the SpermIdiot, not SpermGrandMa or SpermGrandPa, no one from the SpermClan calls SS.
My parents call him on all of his special days, drove 1500 miles one way to be at his HS graduation, take him on all of the granparent/grandkid trips, etc..... My ILs call, spend a week or two with him every summer and send B-Day and Christmas cards and gifts to SS.
Kids are not stupid. They know who really gives a shit.
I agree that this is the way
I agree that this is the way it should be. I guess it would speak highly of us if we had SS call the Clan on their B-Days. I wish we could naturally be that magnanimous.
But, we prefer them to remain distant and a non entity in our lives and the life of our kid.
Petty of us I know, but it is so much easier that way and they make it easy by being nearly non participatory in SS’s life.
For an NCP who is active and contributory to their children’s lives, absolutely. The CP should encourage the kids to call and visit on NCPs just as the NCP should encourage the kid to call the CP when on visitation with the NCP.
In my SS’s case the only way we would encourage him to call the Clan is if we were smoking something or eating some really special brownies.
Rags it wasn't about that. It
Rags it wasn't about that. It was about that bm thought everything should go through her and dh had no right to call his kids or anything unless it went through her. He just turned the tables b/c she is always saying how she is the mom. She has that mentality that mom always knows best and always puts the kids best interests first. BLAH BLAH BLAH. Of course kids are kids and most kids don't remember anyone's bday but their own anyway.
My dh is very much involved in his kids lives. Most kids do need to be reminded to call someone on their bady.
Daisy, I understand your
Daisy,
I understand your situation. I agree with you completely. Frequently my fingers out run my brain when I am posting and I fly past the point I was trying to make.
I was recounting the situation we deal with in my SS's situation. I apologize if I sounded like I was not in agreement with you.
I am glad your Skids called their dad on his birthday. My SS would beam if anyone in the Clan called him on his birthday. But, that ain't happenin, ever if I had to predict the future.
Best regards.
No biggie Rags I was just
No biggie Rags I was just trying to explain where I was coming from. Thanks