That is EXACTLY what BM wanted to do to us when she emailed CPS and put in the false reports. She wanted to turn our lives upside down. She told SD that he BEAT her and that is why she left the country. She told CPS that as well but when she saw the both of us and what a nice home we are providing (we had did major renovations to the children's bedrooms), and the fact they were all doing great in school. The truth stood strong. The children were asked to draw pics and what the drew was rainbows, a horse, and smiles. LOL!!!! OMG these kids are soooo unhappy. She said the children were EXTREMLY out going and joked and kidded around with her.
But here is the very unfair thing. Our home got inspected yet these children have to go to her home every summer which was NEVER checked out because it is in another country. She drinks, has slapped my SD on several occassions, drove while intoxicated WITH the children, parties with adult son in front of the childen, took the children to parties where everyone was drinking!!! My SD has actually ran away one time last summer from BM. She has NEVER behaved like that with us. But WE are the ones investigated?????

What BM managed to do in our case is make it harder on herself. Now we decided EVERYTHING will have to go through our attorneys just to protect ourselves. It was the final nail in the coffin for DH. He does not deny her access to the children. She can call and talk to them any time they want. In fact if we are not home we forward the phone to my DH cell phone just so she CAN talk to the kids. She hasn't called them at all for a long time since we started doing this. She wants to tell DH he MUST stay home on Saturday evenings so she can talk to the children AT OUR HOME. No....the court order just says she has unlimited calling during reasonable times and reasonable durations. Again BM wants control. Does she really think our world revolves around her? We are supposed to stay home on weekends in CASE she decides to call which is not often. I believe that she stopped calling because she knows she lost control of our home.