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Submitted by prisirocks09 on Thu, 09/19/2013 - 3:31pm

BF & I are on the rocks. We've been a family for the past four years, his two girls and my daughter, and we just added our newborn who will be two months old in a week.

We've been able to work through every bump in our relationship but he had an indiscretion while I was seven months pregnant and its been hard for me to trust him again.

Anyway, we were just talkin about possibly ending our relationship. He really wants me to find a way to make it work and wants me to think about what we can do as a couple to fix things. I just dont really feel we are a priority in his life and he just sticks around because of the baby and how much our kids have adapted to the family we've built, however dysfunctional being a blended family. Now to add fuel to my fire, in the midst of our convo, he feel asleep. And there he is, half dead on our bed. It's taking every ounce of self control right now not to throw ice cold water on his face...so instead I'll post this blog Sad :?

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Submitted by misSTEP on Thu, 09/19/2013 - 3:54pm

I'm sorry. Have you considered a counselor? If not marital, for you yourself? I am not saying you are the problem but a counselor can help you sift through things to get to the real issues.

I know that your hormones are probably out of whack right now. This is not saying that he isn't doing anything wrong just that now you are in mama bear mode and everything is going to bother you more at the moment.

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Submitted by itsmylifetoo on Thu, 09/19/2013 - 4:40pm

I agree that the ice water thing is more than tempting. It seems that this is a prime example of what you are talking about, he doesn't appear to be all that invested...to cheat, then fall asleep while asking you to do what you can to save your relationship. I would bet that obviously you don't want the family to split, but trust is a big issue in a relationship...many women will end things if they can't trust (and SO proves over and over again) that he will not defend her...much less sleeping with someone else.

(((HUGS)))I'm sorry you are going through this, you are going to have to follow what you know is right, and be confident that things will work out. Do you have the support of friends and family to fall back on? Can you pack your stuff while he is sleeping right now, and let him know youre going there to think for a few days and youll be back? Then theres always the ice water.... }:) If it were me...I would NOT AT ALL be over my SO cheating after only four months.

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Submitted by Starla on Thu, 09/19/2013 - 5:07pm

I'd sprinkle salt on him before the ice water.. Wink He should be up and pleasing you even if its a backrub while you are feeling upset, this is pain he brought on. I'm sorry you are going through this.