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Now my DH wants me to tattoo his name on me just because he is insecure... what to do?

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Submitted by prettyinpink on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 3:47pm

My DH and I have been going through some rough time lately and since he has my name tattooed on him he now wants me to tattoo his name on me (he has other tattoos I dont have any)I dont think I mind doing it, I just dont want to do it for the wrong reasons... if he wants us to be together their has to be trust (which Ive never done anything to loose his trust in me) a tattoo wont do anything...

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Submitted by prettyinpink on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 3:57pm

I know I was thinking that I might do it and if anything Ill just cover up his name if things dont work out.. which I should'nt even think like that :?

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Submitted by starfish on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 3:58pm

i would tell him to take his whiny cry baby ass tatoo request and stick it up his ass!

if you wanted a tatoo so bad, you probably would have already hadone..... insisting you mark your body with his name is like a dog pissing on a tree...

you have more problems then his insecurities... control freak for one.......

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Submitted by dakotamom on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 4:09pm

don't do it - you don't want your first tattoo to be a regret...i have 7 of them and i will get more, but NEVER, NEVER will i put my man's name on me. it's just asking for problems....

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Submitted by prettyinpink on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 4:11pm

yeah but he has my name so I guess I feel like its only fair that I have his too... Ill keep thinking about it

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Submitted by prettyinpink on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 4:16pm

I did not insist but before he told me he was going to do it I asked him if he would tattoo my name and he said yes

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Submitted by prettyinpink on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 4:18pm

Proud Arrow u are soooooo right he needs halp asap I have never EVER done anything that can ruin my marriage so for him to be all insecure he has deep issues that need to be taken care of!!!

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Submitted by StepMomJane on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 4:19pm

AH! No! Don't do it! It's curse! The clock starts ticking once that ink is dry...I've heard. Not really, but I still think that's completely outrageous. Especially since you've never even had one. "Covering it up" doesn't make it go away. You'll always know it's under there...

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Submitted by StepMomJane on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 4:20pm

P.s. Think of how you would feel if you had a past boyfriend's name tattooed on you and had it covered up. Wouldn't you be kicking yourself for doing it? YES.

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Submitted by antidrama on Thu, 08/26/2010 - 12:29pm

My DH used to be a tattoo artist and he would actually talk people out of tattooing anybody other than blood relatives' names on them. I adore him with all my might but I'll be damned if I put his name on me.

NEVER...EVER...a good idea.

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Submitted by prettyinpink on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 4:22pm

StepmomJane I kinda think its a curse too because when my DH tattooed my name on him I swear we were fighting left and right lol imagine double curse? AHHH

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Submitted by SteppingUp on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 4:58pm

If you have gone your whole life without getting a tattoo, it is a big deal! I went through phases where I've considered it, but recently I am much more proud to say that I have none...just a personal thing that makes me feel good that I never gave in to my own impulses Smile

Why not suggest renewing your vows or something? I think his request for you to get a tattoo (esp when you don't have any) to be completely out of line. I can see his side that if you did get it that you'd be "proving" it to him. However, your other actions in your relationship should prove it to him more than a tattoo that can easily be covered in the future.

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Submitted by starfish on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 9:17pm

in case it got lost in translation:

"i would tell him to take his whiny, cry baby ass, tatoo request and stick it up his ass!"

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Submitted by prettyinpink on Thu, 08/26/2010 - 11:32am

Star fish ur so funny lol Smile but thank you everyone foor ur good advice I will talk to him and keep u guys posted Smile

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Submitted by prettyinpink on Thu, 08/26/2010 - 2:27pm

antidrama omg really ur hubby was a tattoo artist and he talked people out of it??? I guess if a tattoo artist will tell u no then maybe I should'nt lol... thanks

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Submitted by momoutofhermind2 on Thu, 08/26/2010 - 3:50pm

I agree with the rest. Don't do it just to do it. Do it only if you want to do it. It wont fix anything, but on the flip side you can cover it. I would say don't make it your first one so at least if things don't work out you wont regret your first one being his name. Maybe get the the one you want and then his b/c no matter what we say it's still up to you. Men like to see their name they think of it like your their woman. He has some already so one more is no problem to him and since it's your first don't do it yet.

Get his name on your butt, then only you know it's there and it can be covered all the time and he can see it when he wants....hehehe. Or offer to get a matching tattoo. Then at least it's not his name and he still has a tiny say in it.

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Submitted by prettyinpink on Fri, 08/27/2010 - 6:06pm

You guys are all right me getting his named tattoed will not fix anything!!! but yeah because he is going through his insecurity phase he thinks that by me having his name in a visable place people will know I am taken!!! um hello I wear my wedding rings all the time plus it doesnt matter what they think if any one trys to talk to me (flirt) Ill simply say "sorry I am happily (lol) married"... and Old Dart I think if I do it Ill tell him under my foot lol...