Is actually about my Ex who makes payments directly to state, but is not under CSE because the system was not set up til a few years after we divorced.

My ex has been real good about paying for the past 10 years (was terrible early on). My DS is now almost 16. Since March of 2009, the CS has not been regular, here and there, and in Nov it has stopped completely. Ex never really told me anything, I had to ask at some point last year what was going on---economy blah blah blah---and if CSE takes me to court, oh well---this was the attitude.

We got another "collection" call asking if we were related to BM or BM'sH. Heck no---operater said her research showed DH was related to BM--I advise operator if BM told her that, we would get a restraining order to stop that nonsense. DH and BM divorced over 12 years now. Obviously BM and BM's H just don't tell their creditors any new info.

Bugs me. I am a responsible adult. If I take a loan, I pay it. I don't run for the hills and make it so the responsible people get hight interest to pay for deadbeats. I gave the operator EVERY phone # they got---land line, 2 cell phones.

BM may be moving across the street from us. How do I handle this situation? BM is a nightmare. We have just gotten SD17 settled out after fiasco last spring. It is hard to be in same room with her. She has tried on several occassions to get my DH and I to hit her (never have). Pretty sure that is what happened few weekends ago w/her Husband, he shoved her.

I know a lot of judges are not with it in Family Law on seeing things right. But, ours did. We thought for sure we would lose custody of SD16 last summer, and prepared for it. However, judge saw that the permissive parenting BM was doing was causing SD to not reach her potential, so kept PC w/DH. Thank goodness she did.

SD was angry at first, but has settled, set goals for school and for technincal school after HS. SD has FINALLY made peace w/fact that she CAN love both parents and not feel like betrayal to her BM.