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SO's Mediation session OR I detest BM even more...

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Tue, 02/21/2012 - 12:18pm

Didn't think I could detest BM this much.

She didn't bring it up until now, I think cause that box is closing in (think Former's BM)

Apparently it may be an "issue" that SO and I are living together in a house that is in my name (cause I don't trust her or court or anyone to try to use it as leverage) that we both pay for. We have been since the end of May. We love each other. We don't want to get married, but there are plenty of GREAT parents out there raising children that aren't married. The man who I consider a stepdad has been with my mom since I was 13 and they aren't married and he's been one heck of a father, titled that way or not!

Because we are not "married", the stability of our situation is in question by a "VERY CONCERNED BM"...

However, it's okay for her to still consider moving 2k miles away with Skids for a "new life with a BF that she reconnected with from middle school".

Which is why we are pushing for custody. A few months back she "accidentally" sent an email to SO saying it was a draft of how she was going to tell him she was moving with the kids.

Sigh...

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Tue, 02/21/2012 - 1:48pm

Mazzy I tell myself and roll my eyes and choke back the vomit 99% of the time I have to hear anything about her. All hail the GU!!!! :sick:

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Tue, 02/21/2012 - 12:28pm

I hate people who complain about not being married, blah, blah, blah...DH and I are married. DH and I lived together for 10 years before we got married. DH and I lived together longer than DH and crazy witch ever lasted and they WERE married lol So much for their craziness about stability. If you have one or two idiots that don't belong with each other, wether married or not, it's not stable. Funny, crazy witch wasn't thrilled either because "it wasn't right for her daughter to see it", yet saw no problem with her daughter having boyfriends sleep over at 14 lol or her teaching her daughters to dress like hoochies at 6...just like her...go figure! And of course, she was against this living together because she never did that...REALLY idiot BM? Of course, you see, you divorced DH on a Tuesday morning, and the same day, on that same TUESDAY afternoon, in the same court house, you married another guy! And oh yes, your high morals were that although you were still married, you already had another kid by the loser...go figure! LOL

I'd tell her where to stuff it! Funny, people also commented on how our son would feel that his stupid daughter could always say "at least my parents were married when they had me"...lol To which I replied each and every time, "yep! she could say that, and my son will gladly say YES, you are correct and less than a year after you were born, the split...and MY parents without even being married are still married and have been together longer than your parents ever were"...that usually ended the BS from his stupid family about it.

PS - no my son never said such a thing, because skid never said anything to him...but I would've gladly taught him if she dared bug him about it!

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Submitted by Jsmom on Tue, 02/21/2012 - 12:35pm

Hell I wish we hadn't gotten married. Best thing you probably did. I wanted to just keep dating until the kids left. I so wish I had. Married affected my SS and is now affecting BS financial aid. And BM has been able to keep taking us back to court and see my taxes.

Getting married the second time around is so not worth it...Very expensive all the way around.

Ignore her about this, she doesn't have a leg to stand on. No one cares...

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Submitted by Newstep on Tue, 02/21/2012 - 12:41pm

BM brought this issue up in mediation as well. The mediator slammed her for it because in the same breath BM was defending her right to have her BF who just got out of prison live with her!!! Then she whined about SO not "being there" for her anymore and how wrong it was because he was SD's father so he should "be there" whenever she needed him. The mediator slammed her on that one also stating that SO was SD's father period and it wasn't his responsibility to take care of BM. WooHoo mediator!!! BM started crying and said that she relied on him for 20 years and it was hard now that he wouldn't help her. :jawdrop:

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Tue, 02/21/2012 - 1:40pm

Just as icing on the cake (I love my SO at moments like this)

Mediator asked general questions about how far away we live (27 miles), our situation (not a rental home, no other roommates, etc), who lives there (us and my 2 kids, they get along fine), and then asked "well are you and Pixie planning on getting married?" And SO replied "well, as you can see, I've been having difficulty resolving things with BM since before the divorce, and I'm not really in a hurry to be married again. Pixie and I have been together for awhile, I love her, she knows this, and understands completely why I don't want to make any legal decisions about a commitment towards her. Love isn't on a piece of paper.

Smile Thanks. Just got done having lunch with SO to get all the details. He told me that she said "If he drops the custody case I won't move, and if I do, I'll give him 30 days notice"

HA! We both call BS. Along with the mediators AND SO's attorney. Apparently everyone is starting to see that she's nuts.

I could blog all day but I don't want to be a blog hog.

Oh Former, skids (and mine too!) drive me nuts sometimes, so I absolutely am arming myself with all of the combat training you and all the other STalkers here have been giving each other! I'm scared to death, especially since SS9 is so quiet and seems to have some loyalty to mom, even though she pays most of the little attention she does give to SS6.

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Tue, 02/21/2012 - 1:47pm

One more:

Herewegoagain, on what you wrote:
"If you have one or two idiots that don't belong with each other, wether married or not, it's not stable"

^^^^^^^LIKE!!!!!!!!!^^^^^^^^

Hence why EXH and I are so much better off as parents and me as a person since the divorce. We got married to please everyone and try to be a "family". I have learned (and we try to instill this in all 4 of the kids) "Family is not just what you are born into, it's all the people in your life that love and care about each other".

Newstep, I want your mediator! LOL

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Tue, 02/21/2012 - 4:24pm

Crazy. They are crazy. This one is a control freak. About everything. Not just the kids. Is yours like that too?

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Submitted by pixiedust10 on Tue, 02/21/2012 - 2:12pm

I really hope it doesn't affect the court case that we live together. Things have been pretty tough in my side of my family life the last few months on top of the challenges of our home life. I feel like she's trying to control DH's life.