FDH asked if I wanted to see SS7 with him over the weekend. I am unsure of this because I don't want to seem like an intruder, and I don't want to hurt the case. It's about them, not me, as much as I want to go hug SS7 and see him.

Due to the current situation and SS7's location, he can only have a few calls out a week outgoing,so he makes 2 to BM and 1 to FDH. He have visitors both days of the weekend and I think twice a week. The town is far, so FDH can only go on the weekends. Apparently BM has been trying to go around every other day. Well, the social worker at SS7's residential facility has decided BM can only see him once a week now, he apparently gets upset during the visits and has episodes/fits/violence at the end and after. Same as most of the visits since they were taken from BM.

During the conversation with the social worker, it seems they are making observations that SS7 is MUCH more controlled and calmer around men than women, this is something I wondered about. His dad was the only real authority figure. Think about, and this is just my opinion, but in schools, you can't discipline like you could back in the day. You can restrain, but you can't discipline. Same for afterschool care, same for church, etc...he knows I can't spank him either (me and FDH have a mutual agreement for all kids in our house simply because of the Ex factor and what has happened with BM lies) and he ran away from me on Christmas. FDH is the only one who has really been able to get through to him. Ever. He behaves best for FDH, and best for Grandpa, but even FSIL had more issues than FFIL had the last time we had a visit....

Thoughts???

BTW, SS10 is doing okay, it's nice for him to have normalcy with the foster family...