So kill her with kindness?
Thanks Gettingby, you have a calming effect and trust me, i need it right now.

you guys are right! It has to do with my insecurities (plenty of em)and maybe the fact that FH doesnt set boundaries with her. She can do no wrong and he never wants to upset her, but yet she can shit all over him and he's fine with that. Maybe that he gave her the world and I always feel like i'm second best or just not good enough. It doesnt even matter anyway at this point. He broke up with me last night. The sucky thing is that we are moving to our new place in TWO days!!!! Everything is packed and moved and I cant stay at my current place since its been rented and I cant afford the new place since its triple my monthly income. Cant even stay with family since the closest are 2hrs away. I havent even told my son(8yr old) that we broke up becuase he will be devastated since he was his 'dad' for the past few years. Thank you all though for your advice you made me see things differently.

I simply cannot put into words how greatful I am to have you guys and your very powerful advice. It means the world to me especially right now.

So wednesday nights we have date night because my son has visitations with his biodad for 2hrs. He cancelled on me because he was asked by the widower to be there when he met with the financial counselor. I was a bit bothered because he havent had 'us' time lately, but I completely understood that he needed to be there for support for him. So he called me before I left to drop off my son and we talked fine and then he tells me that BTW he's going to introduce me to BM if she shows up. I pretended I didnt hear that and he said it again like 3 more times so I said "yeah? what are you gonna say?" When he said I'll say 'so and so, this is so and so' I said "oh" and he said "well what do you want me to say?". So I said how about this is so and so my fiance. THAT WAS THE BREAKER!!!! All hell broke lose!!!! Him saying that he didnt want to upset anybody and that it's stupid, theres no need for it...blah blah blah. I dont see what the big deal is, So I felt he didnt want to hurt her feelings or get her upset or whatever the case may be. Who cares? Its not his job to cater to her feelings, if she is gonna be all upset about it she has to deal with it its part of life people move on like she keeps doing. So I dont understand! and then he pulled out the ole "i dont think this is going to work, its better if we go our separate ways" "i'm not happy with you anymore"

The sad part is my son overheard some of it and tells me this morning "I really hope he didnt break up with you because I really want to have a real family in our nice new home because I've never had that...." I broke down in tears when my 8yr old said this to me. We have to be out of the apartment in two days now and I dont even know what to do if pack or call the landlord and try to keep the place i'm in now...i'm just frozen in place, my whole world just stopped.

And you know whats ironic????
He's giving the eulogy and hes been asked by the widower to read a speech about why my boss' marriage was so successful with tips on what they did over the years to make their marriage work. And here he can stand up there and read this knowing full well he just left me hi and dry and isnt willing to try to make this work???? hmmmmm....