...So she can go out, drink, and run around all over creation! Today is the fourth time she has been drug to truancy court for a 6 year old and a 10 year old. The older one is only allowed to miss 20 days before he is automatically held back. As of yesterday, she kept them out of school again, the oldest has missed 23 days. Why is this the fourth time she has been drug to truancy court with zero repercussions? Because she always has doctors excuses to over her rear. She will keep them out of school because she is too tired due to one of her late night runs to the ER over a headache. (this was a wednesday...we kept them all that night so she couldn't wake them up at midnight). Instead of letting my fiancee take the boys on to school, she will keep them out, and hauled them to the doctor for made up crap such as a shot because the littlest ones foot was turning white and because he had a "croupy cough". The coughing I can guarantee comes from the fact that she has been evicted twice due to filth which included animal waste all over the carpets. The next day, she will call out from work, keep them out of school because she just does not want to take them, and that evening she will go out. (this was a thursday...) The next day, she will keep them out because well she did not get back from partying until 5am! And then on that Friday and Saturday as usual, she will pawn the boys off on her mother if we can not take them for whatever reason, so she can go out for the rest of the weekend to the bars.

My hands are completely tied as I am only the fiancee. I try my best to push my fiancee in directions he needs to go to get the boys removed from her and it's like he has the memory of a rock. He doesn't remember to document everything like he is supposed to. He doesn't remember to do other really important things like getting a copy of their health insurance cards so we can take them to the doctor to combat each and every stupid thing she is trying to pour into their heads. He claims those two mean more to him than me. Why does it seem like he honestly believes some one is just going to hand them over. You have to PROVE without a shadow of a doubt that the birth mother is an unfit parent for the courts to legally pull kids away from her.

I'm fried. I don't know what to do. I only get to see them once or twice a week and that's not enough to undo all their bad habits and teach them to respect themselves and each other...not to mention other people. I'm definitely not prepared to have a whole bunch of extra responsibilities stacked on my head just because he doesn't want to take care of them. Things are supposed to be an equal partnership and a unified front. I've been trying to beat the important stuff over his head for two years now and nothing changes. I'll be damned if he ever does manage to pull off custody if they are both going to be dumped into my lap for all appointments, needs, wants, play time, school functions, and so forth with zero help from him because his memory sucks or his lack of interest. I'll make sure they have a damned good life if he is going to be a part of all aspects of it.