sounds like we are in simular boats, i also have a bonus son 16 who's idea of a fun weekend is 8 hours a day on the various gaming systems he is given and three other younger children who although younger have more spunk, and motivation to be active and speak more than three words a day. my ss is not in therapy but i do wonder these days if it is the kids who need the therapy of their bm..ie?good parenting methods. i also understand the frustration that goes along with treatment given to the "precious" as though some how by giving these kids siblings and an active family life we have deprived them of the love they had before siblings. as i have mentioned in previous blogs..these bm's seem to raise their kids in a fanatasy bubble with no basis in reality and as far as i can see they are hurting their kids more than anyone else..or maybe they want to keep these kids at home into their 30's because they won't make it in the real world. my experiences recently however is that god forbid you raise any of these issues with bm or skid because you become the wicked stepmother who was chosen by her husband and not the child. basically...grin and bear the visits, and wait for age 18 or tell them to shut up and face the wrath of bm. in my hardest times i remember the words of my family doctor...if you know your home and children are happy, don't base all family decisions on ss, there is no guilt in making sure your own children are happy, and healthy humans.