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I Love My Mother In law!!

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Submitted by Persephone on Fri, 10/15/2010 - 2:06pm

Bless his heart, last night my BIL invited me to have lunch today with him, my MIL and ...SS. I love BIL & MIL, it's the ungracious SS I could do with out.. and have.. he hasn't stopped by to see his dad or me in over a month. (Ever since we told him he is not moving in here and had better not quit his job.) I Know BIL knows about the sitch because he and DH are very close. I also think that BIL is trying to be a peacekeeper. DH is out of town. Anyway, I accept and thank him for being so thoughtful, looking forward... see you tomorrow.

Grrr.. mental note to self: no rusty nails for breakfast, Persephone.

BIL, MIL & I all meet on time at the restaurant. We wait 10 minutes for SS. No show. We are seated, we chat for another 25 minutes...SS no show. We order and eat without him. It's obvious that I am a bit irritated that now, 45 minutes later, SS still hasn't appeared (he lives 6 blocks away). BIL looks at me, I smile keep talking, he winks and looks down (he is anal about time.)

MIL-- 80, looks at both of us.. and says relax.. he is a big boy and if he shows I will exercise my grandmotherly privileges. Wink What's bothering you Persephone?, I will give him some shots...

SS arrives, doesn't apologize for being late. MIL says how thoughtful of you to get around to joining us. He does not apologize, instead, he blames it on an errand he had to do for BM. MIL says: Well, we ate without you, we can't wait around for poor planning. Next time though, comb your hair and wipe the sleep from your eyes. Is your cell phone broke? He says: Persephone doesn't carry one. She says, Persephone didn't invite you, your uncle did; and he has been waiting for a call. [Notice the deflecting blame onto his two parents? Poor little victim.] She went on about him taking so few credits, and asked about the job.. he lied. She says.. Hmmm, SS, In my 65 years of working.. that doesn't make sense to me.. could you elaborate on that...

She does this all with a very sweet grandmotherly demeanor. I took notes.

The grand finale: When saying good bye she says to SS, next time we have lunch it should be when you have time for us, your invite, your check... she winks...

I love this woman!!! I think I need to send DH back to mama for a week or two... Wink

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stormabruin's picture

Submitted by stormabruin on Fri, 10/15/2010 - 2:09pm

She sounds like a wise woman! Smile

Isn't it something how she was able to make a number of valid points without getting the least bit upset??? Heehee!

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Submitted by stepgin on Fri, 10/15/2010 - 2:19pm

Must be nice! Wouldn't it be great if we all had that kind of positive support from inlaws? Imagine if we could all be on the same page in wanting to turn out considerate, productive young adults.... Something to ponder!

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Submitted by Persephone on Fri, 10/15/2010 - 2:50pm

She is wonderful.

Six years ago when we announced our engagement, she said god bless you Persephone... you will need it. You two kids have no idea what you are up against. (She raised 6 bio kids and was a middle school teacher.) In our earlier years she would call me and ask how the little dickens (SD)is doing. Even today when talking about SD.. she said oh, sounds like she still needs a wake up call.

She also sees how the kids never thank her.. for their college funds or gifts in general. She knows that they treat her son like crap.

She has been very supportive. For Christmas her daughter (my SIL) gave her a picture of the grandkids... absent mine... she said well this picture is temporary.. I would like one that includes all the grankids... SIL said what do you mean? MIL, there are three missing... (Two of which live two blocks from MIL that spend a lot of time helping her in her yard, dog walking and baking. MIL sees my kid more than DH's.)

Why aren't some in-laws supportive--wouldn't they want support if they walked in our shoes?

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Fri, 10/15/2010 - 2:50pm

My MIL would do the very same thing! I LOVE that woman! Congrats to you feels so good when someone knows what the real deal is and takes up for you! Smile

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Submitted by Persephone on Fri, 10/15/2010 - 3:12pm

You too are very fortunate.

Usually my outspoken sisters will take a cause or two for me.

I really didn't want to see SS today because he has been bull-shioting DH & I for month. I am pretty certain the he too didn't want to see me and face potential lectures, or look me in the eye. This is where grandma stepped up!!

She has called me since to say that she amazed and disappointed that he showed no remorse and tried to BS her. She said her next call was to him.

Ah, it takes a village... heheehe.

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Submitted by Persephone on Fri, 10/15/2010 - 3:18pm

Thank you, she is.

One of my favorite things she does is if the kids do not call or send a thank you card for a gift received, she will continue to send cards... with checks... then the kids have to call her to find out which one to cash... If they cashed one already.. then she says please bring them over so I can destroy them... lecture.... and she sends them home with a new package of thank you notes...

THEY STILL DO NOT GET IT!!