What a great dad and a wonderful husband (total sarcasm).

Next time he smells like pot call the cops. 1 he's obviously putting you in danger if cops come bust the house, but not if you call them, 2 he's driving high and guess who's on the line for any lawsuits for a minor in a DUI accident that's right the person who's car he was let to drive and his parents.
You need to end this and end it swiftly call the cops and leave inform them his father knows he's doing it but you will not be party to criminal activity.

My Mom and Dad let my brother smoke pot in the house at maybe not that age but definatly just barely over 18.

No stoned kid would be taking my car and in return any care that is insured by DH and I. I wont let them drive out calls even if their sober. You want a license you get your own car.

Unreal

If he is doing it at home he is for sure taking it to school in one way or another. Leave an anonymous tip. Have his car searched at school, have them give him a good pat down, search his locker. You have to wait for the school year to start but it would be worth it and YOU aren't the bad guy!

Years ago, a kid in the condo next to us, was giving pot or selling it who know to minors. One afternoon, we had cops everywhere. Mom and Dad were hauled off along with the kid. They seized their cars and the house. Eventually they got them back, but not after lots of lawyers and court cases. They were sued by the condo assoc and forced to sell the place. It was a mess for the parents who knew their kid was up to something and refused to deal with it.

You are asking for problems. You need to call CPS and the cops and turn them in. It is the only way to protect your assets.

Peanut,

I have had to deal with this. DH was a big time drug user back in the day and eventually just smoked pot for years until he got caught. He went to therapy and doesn't smoke or drink but has the mentality that pot is not that bad.

I have the mentality that pot is the gateway drug and it IS illegal. I don't care how you try to justify it by saying that it is all natural because it is a plant it is still a drug. Yes, I have done a few drugs in my day.

Anyway, a year or two ago I found pot in SS's room. I knew he had been smoking it in the house because I smelt in when I got home from work. I showed DH when SS wasn't home and DH had a talk with SS. SS said it was his friends, etc. DH gave the pot back to SS. I was furious and I let DH know that he was going to lose his house over that kid and his drugs. He went and told SS not to bring it in our house anymore.

The next day when they were both gone I went and found the pot and destroyed it. From then on whenever I found pot in his room I destroyed it. What was SS going to do go tell daddy I destroyed his pot. It didn't take long and he stopped bringing it in the house.

My next action was going to report it anonymously to the cops.

I would NEVER, EVER allow anyone that is high or drunk to drive MY car.

(And PS? You need to be telling those kids "younger than him smoking out in his room" that the SECOND they close that bedroom door, you're calling their parents to tell them EXACTLY what's going on behind that door. Then do it)

^^^ And I would do THIS.

>it is all natural because it is a plant<

So is poison ivy.

Others have said it. I can't believe your DH said that you are the problem for not keeping your mouth shut. The opposite is true. If you did keep your mouth shut, *THAT* would be a problem.

Good for you for standing up here.