Hello!!!  So I am new and I have many things to say.  Well first of all I am a SM to 3 children which now they are adults. Every since the oldest left,she has caused many problems with her dad and me.  I have been in her life for 11 years and she had the guts to tell me that I am nobody to her and she never wants to talk to me.  I was the only person who cared for her and helped her get her life started.  Her dad was always drunk and her biological mother abandoned them when they were little.  I feel unappreciated and hurt.  But yet I feel lonely because her dad defends her and allows her to disrespect me. When I bring up the way I feel he right away says that it is my fault.  I try not to talk to his kids because right away he accuses me of being mean to them but even when I don't talk to them I am still mean to them.  I am confused and lost and I don't know what to do anymore.