Tomorrow we are getting the skids. I'm excited to see the girls because I really have missed them I just don't particularly miss their actions. Last time we had them (Jan) SD2 spit her food inn my face several times, SD4 hit her sister for any and every reason under the sun, and other similar behaviors. Now, I am a SAHM of my DD 10m and the girls are all with me during the day because we cannot afford daycare. This behavior only happens when I am home never when SO is home. When the spitting food thing happened I called BM to ask if it was normal behavior, if SD2 had done this before, etc. After explaining what was going on, BM toldme to smack her mouth. She said SD2 knew better and that would have been her reaction. I didn't but I did put her in time out. I use time outs for most dicsipline except when what thwy do is dangerous and I needto get that across... then its 2 softish smacks on the bottom. And yes SO and BM have toldme this is acceptable punishment.

I am worried that they will act like hellions with meand angels once their dad gets home again. I don't want to be the evil stepmom this trip,I want to have fun with them!!! Ugh... I hope they act better.

Also, FFIL has exppreessed interest in taking both skids to his parents over July 4th. Usually I would have no problem with this but we are having DD,s 1st bday party on the 7th and SO wants skids there with us. I suggested that SO allow him to take skids if he could have them back by the 5th or early the 6th. This is so that they are not tired and cranky and ruin the party we have planned. I know this is going to be a big issue... he (FFIL) blames me for anything that goes wrong with SO. He hates me. SO does stand up for me in front of his dad but damn. This a$$hole has seen our daughter 2x since she was born and ignored her 100% the second time. I know she doesn't understaand yet but it won't be long before she realizes that poppop doesn't want anything to do with her... I don't know how to handle this at all. I know he ignores her because he doesn't like me but how is it her
fault. Omg this pisses e off to no end. This man acts like I have leprosy and his gdaughter (my DD) isn't his sons kid. What the hell do I do?? Please help!!!