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Stupid bm bitch!! Pick up ur damn unbearable mini me!!

overit2's picture

Wth?! That piece of shit has more excuses then anyone !! Sd been with bf since last fri am!!! Supposedly her mom keeps changing plans to see her this week or the wknd which is her damn wknd!! I had to put up with her ass a bit on sun then again yesterday!! Now supposedly one of her lover dike family passed and calls to say she has to go to funeral!! Of course noe that means sd will be there till Xmas am or who know ls maybe till past new years!!! God stupid bf get ur damn balls back and drOp the snott off fuck the excuses!!! I'm so pissed at him! My kids r going to their dads soon and bf will have to get his folks to watch sd and be in a mood or feel guilty!! He refuses to stand up to bm and sd running his-and by aftermath-my life!!! God this never ends!!! What mom goes 9 days During holidays without her kid!!! Oh that's right our bm becuz br and his parents are a bunch of cowards. Screw this!!!

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stepmama2one's picture

Well the BM in our situation hasnt had her duaghter for months at a time...but I dont mind because I like spending time with her..Isnt it funny how many excuses they can come up with just so they dont have to see their kids??

the_stepmonster's picture

DH asked BM if he could keep the skids until Christmas Eve since they are on break. They are technically supposed to split the time. Anyway, she was a bitch and said no because she has plans with them. Apparently her plans involved dropping them at grandma's and living the good life because grandma just called DH asking him for the kids' insurance information since she was going to take them to the doctor. Funny how BM's own mother can't get a hold of her to ask her a question about her children's own welfare. It's fine if she doesn't want to spend time with them herself but to be a bitch and not even let their own father have them is just shitty.

stepmama2one's picture

This reminds me of last yr when it was SD's birthday. SD was living with her mom at the time and we wanted to spend time with her but of course BM said no..When we called after school to wish her a happy birthday we got no answer. About 7 p.m. that night BM texted us and told us that SD was at the Boys and Girls club and that she had been there since after school. This place is basically a place where BM only has to pay $50 a school year so SD can go there after school so BM doesnt have to deal with her..(after school program) ANYWAY so we tell BM to have her call when she gets home...At, oh I dont know, 8 p.m. SD finally calls and says that she just got home...Our question was, If you dont want to spend time with SD on her bd then why be a bitch when her dad would like to see her. She didnt want her dad to see her but was okay to send her to a "babysitter". Now that my husband has custody he was going to be nice and let BM see her for a little this bd and BM actually got pissed because she had to spend time with her...

goingcrazy101's picture

Sounds like FBM in my life. It seems whenever we can have SD10, FBM makes sure they have last minute plans. FBM went out of the country to get married, we were more than willing to take SD but nope SD went with FBM's parents. We offer to have SD come here after school, since we live closer and actually in the same district unlike FBM, but she comes up with multiple excuses of why SD cant. SD wants to be here and FBM always tries to make it seem like we cant or dont want her here. We try to let her know every chance we get that we want her here and we will say this in from of FBM. However, when we do this we dont see SD for 3 weeks. We were suppose to have her for christmas but because FBM changed her plans we no longer get her. She completely pisses my off. Stop playing with you daughters emotions just because you have some issue with her dad. The funny thing about all of this, is FBM cheated on him with the man she is married to now. She kicked him out one day and moved in the new guy the next. Ugh!!

attempting_to_maintain_composure's picture

All sounds very similar to my GUBM, too. The way I see it, GUBM (and most of these BMs from what I've read on this page) sees SD12 not as a child that needs care, love, guidance, and nurturing, she sees her as a little paycheck on legs. GUBM doesn't give a flying hoot if SO gets any time with his kid, she doesn't care about fostering a healthy relationship between SD12 and SO; the only thing she cares about is getting her CS at a time convenient to her stupid schedule.

Every time SO would get to have SD for a weekend when we lived in NJ, GUBM would make it as impossible as she could for him to come get her. She would always wait until Friday evening to decide what to do and would tell him ish like "Oh, I can't drive there tonight, you can come get her, though. If you WANT to see her, that is". Like, seriously? WTF is the point of that hateful bs? She uses SD12 against him, to get back at him for the fact that their relationship failed and that life didn't turn out 110% the way she wanted it to post-split. She would also suddenly "have plans" with SD, preventing SO from having a weekend with her last minute, when in reality, she wouldn't have anything going on and SD would just sit around their lame-o apartment all weekend, dying for something to do - because, for some reason, GUBM doesn't ever think that SD will ever tell SO what's really going on at home.

And, goingcrazy, much like your FBM, GUBM kicked SO out of his own house (!) but she didn't have the decency to wait till he was gone before moving her scumbag junkie boyfriend-at-the-time in, she moved him in well before she broke up with SO, while she was cheating on SO with him. GUBM is so spectacular, she cheats on her significant others while she is still living with them AND in the dwelling they're living together in!

An aside: I think that is the thing that pisses me off the most about the situation, that GUBM was a complete troll to SO, and still is, yet, because she is in possession of SD12, she is treated pretty damn good sometimes by SO - sometimes he ends up having to throw money at her because a) he is stupid and never got a custody agreement together and b) she holds SD over his head, threatening to prevent him from seeing her if she doesn't get x, y, or z from him. Yet, if I ever say anything somewhat "out of line", in his opinion, I get yelled at. Damnit, throw the money my way, we need it more, SO!

WHERESMYWART's picture

Overit,

I'd be pissed too. It really sucks that your husband allows this to go on. My husband is similar in that he allows way to much to go on as well. Don't allow this to ruin YOUR Christmas.