SD's demands -now my laptop charger is broken!!!
Well holy hell as if I'm not mad enough these days, bf and I at odds again because of all the tension......
NOW-I will fully say up front, in reality this is my own damn fault (some of it).
Last wknd my bf came over with SD and stayed WAY to much for me-I had a friend of mine in need here already with her baby for the wknd-so he comes to visit w/SD and stays entirely too long. Her and I are exchanging glances as SD"s bitchy behavior. As usual she rants/raves because my son doesn't share the computer with her enough, my turn, blah blah, i'm getting increasingly annoyed with her and the constant interruptions. THe three of us adults were trying to have a very serious conversation -my friend and her jack ass abusive boyfriend were in a serious moment. He had filed paper for custody, she was leanign towareds a TPO-etc...so we're all trying to talk through options, what to do...of course SD has to interrupt the adults every 3 minutes with demands for attention, food, drinks, whatever.
THEN complaining she couldn't get on MY COMPUTER-because my son was hogging it (well it is OUR computer and I pay the bills here)-he was in middle of finishing building something-the kid is 10 and is already starting to use code to build rooms on a kids site he frequenst (on his own!)-it takes a lot of work and if the bitch wouldn't X his screen out every time she got on then MAYBE he'd be more willing to share.
BUT she doesn't, she says she won't close it just minimize and EVERY TIME closes his screen and he looses his stuff (bitch!)
SO I finally say, you know what, I can plug in the laptop (my work laptop) for a few minutes, be very careful with it (all kids have used to surf safe things a couple of times). She seemed delicate with it-but alas TODAY I'm working from home, and guess what? Can't plug in my damn adaptor/charger-it wont plug ot the back so it seems part of the peg is inside. I"M FUCKING PISSED!!! I take a chance to get her off my damn back and to shut up-and NOW I had to email the boss to tell her i'd work half day only and take in for repair tomorrow. My job will probably repair at no cost-but STILL!!!
NOW-I realize again, 100pct I should NOT HAVE let her use it, my fault, my fault, I was a stupid idiot because she's just a brute with everything-and because I had to shut her up for one damn second I made a stupid decision-falls on me....but also falls on her for bitching the whole time and on her asshole dad for not putting her in timeout-telling me no need for your laptop-she can do something else...or taken her ass home out of my hair so I could be with my friend. Anyways...even though my fault, it still annoys me because I have to share so much space, time, etc w/her stupid bitch ass-if she were normal kid this never would have happened.
I'm on the 'outs' again-I don't want to do anymore for either of them.
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If her dad wants her to be
If her dad wants her to be able to use a laptop at your house, perhaps he should furnish her with one. Don't let her use your things.
YOu're right, his broke ass
YOu're right, his broke ass can't afford to buy her a laptop-not that I agree with a kid having one anyways...but it's just more of the same, I give WAYYYY to much to this relationship and to him and his kid. ENTIRELY too much, and i'm burnt out, and it's just not cutting it for me.
I have AGAIN written a serious letter...and I hope to at least touch the points I want to make with him-it's just if it has to get this hard and complicated why even be together you know?
If i'm unhappy with so many things, instead of demanding 'changes' why not let him be who he is and be by myself?
I'm struggling so much with this...because I'm 37, my marriage was a horrible bust-I always felt alone, I spent 5yrs alone and did well before meeting bf-but it was casual meaningless relatinoships, I was lonely-I wanted someone with me for the long run, I want my kids to see a healthy relationship and like the guy i'm with (and they do)...but so many other things are "wrong' with this picture. I don't want to start over, I go back and forth now for a while and I don't know what to do, i cant get out of stuck mode. THe thought of being entirely alone again or even starting dating again at my age is monumental...so I"m just settling for crap. I wish I knew the answer.
A part of me thinks maybe I just need a break from him for a month and see how that goes, how I feel, maybe time WILL tell in this case.
yeah it sounds like he needed
yeah it sounds like he needed an "end time" to be given when he came over. these are visits not stay all day and bother overit2.
You were nice letting her use the laptop. Dad needed to let her bring her legos (haha) so she could entertain herself during that time.
I eventually just asked him
I eventually just asked him to leave...BUT the thing is the previous wknds when I had said seperate skids wknds he did respect it-and SLOWLY but surely he'll start pushing the limits again. I KNOW it's because he wants to be with me, and I want to be with him but I rather NOT be with him then have MORE time with her, makes sense?
I"m back to taking a stand again-this wknd will be seperate. Now I"m wondering about super bowl-we would love to watch it together, I would love to go to my brothers house w/his big 3d tv...but i'm not taking sd over there. I dont' want them at my house w/my crappy tv because sd will bother us every 3 mins of the damn game w/bullshit. SO the alternative is we don't see it together, I go w/my boys to my brothers house. OH WELL.
makes complete sense! It was
makes complete sense! It was inevitable. He was going to push his boundaries, he needs reminders which is what you are doing. I've basically started acting like when skids are here, I get to be on my own. Even if I'd enjoy being with SO, I get myself into the mindset that this is MY weekend to do whatever I want and I probably won't see him much. Feels pretty freeing actually.
If I were you, I'd rather just not be around her.
I'm in IT and they sure do
I'm in IT and they sure do frown on colleagues letting children or family members use work computers. That would be the end of that If I were you.
SO's own nephews don't come
SO's own nephews don't come over for this very reason. They aren't controlled by the parent.
OMG ROFLMAO...I jumped the
OMG ROFLMAO...I jumped the gun, I was WRONG!!! LOL WELL my comments still stand for her demanding ass and my having to share my shit...BUT it was the WRONG CHARGER!! I decided to mess around with it and the one I was trying to plug in was HP also but I looked at my room and found another one and THAT was the correct one!!! No wonder the peg didn't go in.
ONe thing I am glad of, I held back....I didn't call bf to bitch him out about his kid breaking my shit and have to eat crow LOL.
I take it back, she didn't break it, BUT I don't take back all the anguish she causes me on the regular. HAPPY DANCE-and with THAT I have learned that I will NEVER EVER let her use my laptop again,![Smile](https://prod-cdn-1.ststatic.com/sites/all/modules/contrib/smiley/packs/kolobok/smile.gif)