What a mixed weekend. For one it seems that recently my bf and I this last week or so have been in a bonding frenzy. We are both being extremely affectionate, loving and intimate very frequently. It's one of the "ups" I guess you could say where we are both feeling incredibly connected and can't get enough of eachother. It feels fantastic. This was our "kids free" wknd.

It started off crazy on Friday because my oldest son through a temper tantrum AGAIN when his dad came to get him...enough for my ex to have to man handle him a bit to get him to calm down...I mean he was (my son) being ridiculous and disrespectful so well deserved to have his ass shaped by his dad a bit-wasn't abusive or anything, but enough to get his attention. I swear that child has such a strong will and temperemental at times! UGGHHH

Anyways-Friday night we had a great night, Sat we slept in, cleaned the house-he did stuff outside, fixed things, we went out Sat night, slept in Sunday...the bf mentioned at least 6 times about getting married-how it wouldn't be any different then it is now, how he would totally marry me even if he swore he would never marry again. He said he had no doubts about me-scared, yes marriage scares anyone but he had absolutely no doubts I was the one he's been wanting his whole life. ON and on....then about the last name...asked if I would change it to his if we married (I still have my ex's name)...I mean I was pretty surprised, we've talked about marriage before but this wknd was different. I don't know if he was just gauging my response or how i felt about it.

I DO have issues that I cannot say I could go in w/no doubts until they are resolved however. And we did talk about those.

Then to BM's stupid shit-first of all, last wknd MOTHERS DAY she didn't pick SD up until 5pm-YEP....crazy.

THEN bf gets a call early Sunday am from his parents house he didn't answer-a little bit later gets a text from his dad "SD is at our house...said she'd really love to come over if you so choose"

WTF??? Good God...so BM gets another free Sunday on OUR free wknd because she's busy tryign to find her newest lesbian pal since her last one beat her up and they broke up last week....like that's OUR problem-common courtesy should tell her to NOT bother him on his free wknd-just like we don't interfere in hers. We are both extremely possesive and guard our personal time and wknds with fierceness if need be. We get 2 days 2 x month for us to have couple time free of kid interference-his or mine. Just time for us to bond, play, have OUR relationship be a priority.

It angered me so much not only that BM pulled her stunt-but that his parents said YES to having her-but even worse that they then decide to send a text to HIM about having her after they went behidn his back to accept her coming to see them in the first place..but then HE feels guilty because the SD is w/his parents wanting to see him and we dont' respond. It's shitty but he's been left NO choice then to act this way and it WILL affect the girl-BUT if his ex puts him there to begin with what do you do-and then his parents feel like they shoudl never say no to BM because they feel guilty about SD...ok so fine...take her if you want but don't call him or text him to come see her, get her if you signed up to have her. That's on THEM not us! Not on his nonvisitation wknd...you want to sing up for that, fine-but don't bug us. It totally change the mood for both of us Sunday. I was so irritated with the whole thing.

Good forbid if we DO marry-is this going to keep happening? Are his parents going to say yes anytime BM wants to bring SD over to them and expect us to then go get her or guilt us? I've already said my piece. I've told bf that I'll be damned if BM EVER thinks she can do an unnanounced/last minute dropoff or expect us/me to pick her slack up. It will not happen. If his parents want to continue doing so then he better make sure they understand we will NOT be changing our plans because SD is unexpectedly with them. We will not say yes to them to what he would have said no to BM to begin with. I will not falter on this-ONE TIME is all it takes to have it be expected.