Well so most you know i've become quite disengaged. This week sd is with bf and when not w/him w/his parents.

Yesterday evening I graciously invited them to eat dinner with us-since she's been there Friday we've only had one evening together which went very well.

So, bf comes over alone and i'm like where's sd? He states she wanted to go w/his parents to his brothers house to play w/her cousin i assume-she likes little kids (prolly because she can boss them lol)...so fine.

We had a nice dinner, i made gnocchi with cream sauce, the boys and us talked at dinner table and I had rented a movie. NOW-he knows i'm working from home this week. ANyways around 945 he gets a call from his parents saying they were back in the area and if they could drop sd off here. OK, so you dont want to come to dinner but at 945 which is end of the night? WELL i figured we'll watch the movie and be done. Overall things with boys went fine. ANd even though she had eaten 2 mcd's burgers and some pjohns pizza there (his brother and wife dont ever cook!) she of course was still hungry for my food lol. I guess it's a compliment but dang I remember how many times she's eaten me from house and home! She does really enjoy my cooking.

Movie time, we had to sternly explain we were taking the big couch, she took another one and got blankets for her and boys. All good...EXCEPT him and i get up for a few moments to have a cig outside...we come back in she's in our couch and giggles and laughs while bf kicks her out -YAY!
I'm just rubbing/scrathing his head back and simple affectionate things-like we always do...about 10 min later...I want to sit with daddy! He says just stay there and watch the movie...she does and 5 min later comes and plops over on the other side anyway, curls up...(sucking thumb of course) and asks dad to give her a neck massage. Of course now I'm getting annoyed but movies is almost over. I remind them i have to work next day-of COURSE as usual after movie she starts instigating wrestling with the boys on the couch-everyone gets out of hand laughing being loud, he's trying to break it up- i retreat to my bathroom/room and shut the door-he comes in to say goodnight and i barely answered. EARLIER before she came over we were planning on getting busy either during or after movie when kids were in bed. of course that idea is shot down when sd is here. We rarely if ever get it on anytime sd is with him.

BAHHH...anyways...not horrid, but still disobeyed my no wrestling rule, and still had to cozy up to dad because i was lol. Shoot I don't think my boys ever do that cozing up thing. UGHHHH

On the flip side,bf as frustrated as he is and wants to totally step out at times...I can see that he is really happy when things are going good and we're all enjoying family time and she's behaving..it lifts his spirits and honestly it makes ME joyful to see him happy and laugh....even if those few moments dont' last long. THen he becomes stressed w/her again because she'll act out ha! BUT dang, I mean I feel bad for him, he wants the normalcy and unity and peace and have it WITH SD included, of course, what parent wouldn't!! it's all the other crap that never lets up that gets him just depressed as hell.