Dealing with deadbeat BM's.....
Oh my gosh I want to scream!! Vent session ahead! SO...bitch who is OFF on Monday, tells the bf Sunday that the girl needs to stay w/him since school is out. THat she has to go stay at her dads that night to get to work. Here in the south we rarely get bad weather but we got dumped with ice and snow-been like this since Sunday. No school, no banks open, most roads are horrible... BUT AGAIN she pulls her shit. SHe hasn't been to work still and she just dumped her D who she has custody of of course and a full paycheck. SHE KNEW WELL she wasn't going to make it-why not DEAL with the D you signed up to have full custody of on the time she is SUPPOSED to be with you!!!
WTF EVER!!! Of course I'm stuck at home with my kids, no school.....they were here-overall the kids did very well, got along mostly but damn, having 3 kids is a LOT more then 2, especially when you add ms. energy to the mix. I"m exhausted. Finally now it's me and the boys-bf was going to head back later but I'm sure now they cancelled school AGAIN tomorrow his ex is going to say she's stuck and I'm sure he'll head over w/her. Catch 22...I want to see him but that adds the package deal too.
I'm thinking dude take her home...I SIGNED UP FOR FULL CUSTODY OF MY KIDS> Not his. SHE has full custody let HER fucking deal and take the responsibility of finding arrangements for her daughter. WHy is it always drop her off w/her dad or dads parents ?
It's like it's bad enough having ONE deadbeat non custodial parent (my ex-who by the way has made a 30% improvement lately)...but then you have to deal w/a deadbeat CUSTODIAL parent? What the fuck gives?
I"m in the twilight zone-if we survive this then I think we have a chance because it's been VERY trying and overwhelming. It's just accepting the "package" deal, same as he has to do with me and my boys I"m sure.
It just is so unfair that she gets "custody on paper" to look good in front of others, get a monthly paycheck and only see her daughter 20% of the month...OR less. And then you have dad who TRIES to fight back the monster she is...and if he wins then his PARENTS give in to her every demand. Man, it's that I love you but this dealing w/your shitty ex wife- is driving me crazy! Venting is good sometimes. I ABHOR mothers that are deadbeats even more then dads-double standard maybe but what a sick f*ck she is! What is WRONG w/her!!
OH, and add ONE tv in my house-ONE computer-I've been in prison-unable to get on computer or tv because one of the three is on it...NO personal space till 11 at night. No sex because by then we're collapsing, busy cooking, feeding, putting close in dryer that they get wet in snow-3 times a day....then help them find their stuff to put on again.
WHEN IS THIS HELL OVER. I tried to go to work and the interstate was gridlocked...I'm praying I can get there tomorrow for a half day at least. F*ck the snow and ice, F*ck the south not being ever prepared to deal with it, and F*ck that poor ass excuse of a shit woman deadbeat fat cow!!!
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I read every word. I hear
I read every word. I hear your vent.
I'm sending your BM bad thoughts as I type this.
I really feel for you. I'm
I really feel for you. I'm going thru the same BS. BM has custody (they have shared parenting) but she is CONSTANTLY pawning SS off over here (even if hubby is at work). Its one excuse or another, I'm sick, I'm tired, the rds are bad I might get snowed in, I'm going out of town on vacation. She tells hubby he has to watch SS b/c "you know we have shared parenting...start acting like it!! Quit being stepsonhatesme's little bitch "!!
I started making him keep track of all the times we have SS an it started sinking in for him how much he was doing. HE has to be the one to stand up to BM.
GOOD LUCK.
Ohhhhhhhhhhhh how I feel your
Ohhhhhhhhhhhh how I feel your pain!
God forbid BM ever, EVER take a day off to take care of her sick kids. She gets paid time off that builds up at her job and she flat out refuses to use it for anything BUT her own "fun" time, and has proclaimed just that out loud. Today, SD5 is sick and she is at one of BM's lameass friend's house who doesn't work. Poor kid.
She also randomly will call us to take the skids for a few hours so that she can get some grocery shopping done, or get her hair done...um, she has the kids only half the time! Why can't she schedule that crap during her nights off?? Or why can't you just take your kids shopping WITH you, like we do every week!???
Oh, and I forgot to mention that she actually only sees her 5 year old daughter 2-3 days out of the week. Yet she has "full custody" and gets a child support check from 2 different men (one my fiance) that adds up to almost $1,000 a month.
Completely agree with you that if it is her time, it is her responsibility to find someone to care for HER kid.... by the way, where is your H in all of this?
Steppingup..it looks like BM
Steppingup..it looks like BM should be paying the child support to BD. Makes you wonder how courts figure it costs more for bm than bd to care for kids.
Yes maam, our lazy skank gets
Yes maam, our lazy skank gets 1200 a month....and do you know what we get for that hard earned money?
Skids that hate us. She taught them hate. She taught them to smoke dope, the natural drug. DH used to cave more in the early days, now he just hits ignore on the phone. She doesn't bother to call anymore because she knows he won't answer. This makes my life good.
BMs plan is...get as much money as possible, use you as much as possible, and get out of taking care of kid as much as possible...did I leave out create as much bullshit, bitch, and whore around....ya, that too.