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Submitted by over step on Fri, 10/23/2015 - 7:10am

BM called DH yesterday to discuss changing visitation to one week a month instead of EOW. DH said he was fine with but isn't sure Puke will be and doesn't want to make her cuz she'll make our lives miserable if she's made to. I agree. I don't want an angry teen for a week.

Then he tells me that Puke tells BM that when she is here for a week that she and I can't talk during the day cuz I'm working. How is that any different than I was going into the office every day? And she doesn't talk to me when I'm not working. WTF!!

DH told BM that of course I can't chit chat while I'm working and that Puke doesn't say much to me anyway even when I try to talk to her. He told BM that Puke is in her room most of the time as it is and doesn't interact with us very much. Puke is also telling BM that she doesn't know what to say to me cuz we don't have anything in common. Um...I disagree. We have a lot in common just by what DH tells me. Not I care to talk to Puke. Just finding holes in her logic.

Yet another lame finger pointing ploy against me that has backfired on Puke. DH had my back on this cuz he knows Puke doesn't even try.

A small victory for this SM!

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Fri, 10/23/2015 - 7:28am

Good DH. IMHO...I think he should have just shut BM down as soon as she started talking about what Puke says about you.

"Oh BM, you know how teenagers are, have Puke call me to discuss." And then he just needs to keep shutting her down every time BM says something about you.

I can see puke griping about you to her mom. (she is a teen) But BN should have never brought up such petty issues to your DH.

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Submitted by over step on Fri, 10/23/2015 - 7:32am

She is a petty person so it doesn't surprise me. I'm just shocked he stood up for me instead of just avoiding taking sides.

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Submitted by over step on Fri, 10/23/2015 - 7:41am

I haven't heard anything more said about the laptop. I doubt she'll ask to use it again. Of course, I told DH to tell her upfront if she asks that she can't use it.

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Submitted by SM12 on Fri, 10/23/2015 - 3:46pm

Dont worry about the stepshit not talking to you...2 out of my 3 don't talk to me and I find it to be quite nice.
After I got over the initial hurt feelings and "what did I do wrong" idea....it has been a much calmer place. Of course they stopped coming over too which helped.

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Submitted by notsobad on Fri, 10/23/2015 - 9:01pm

Did I miss something? Where will the dog go if she's with you for a week? Am I mixing up steps?