Both sd8 and bs10 will be with their other bioparents this Thanksgiving. Dh and I have arranged to do our family Thanksgiving the following Sunday so our kids can celebrate with us. Little did I know, Dh already gave Bm the go ahead to travel several states away with sd8,by car. Dh emailed Bm making sure she would have sd8 back to us early on that Sunday afternoon,so she can participate in the dinner. Bm replied back that she couldn't get her back that early and that "dh already told her she could take sd8 out of town", to which dh replied "I assumed you would plan to be back early on Sunday considering you all have school the next day"(bm is a teacher) Bm replies "Can't you do your dinner on a different day?".....Oh Hell No!!! Dh and I have invited 25 people,my mom took the day off of work for this. I am so disgusted at both bm and dh. Dh is a moron for not including me before he responded "yes" to bm request to take sd out of town. I would have helped him with some "foresight" knowing that WE would have some plans too,and to put a specific time in place to guarantee he would get sd back in time. It's His scheduled weekend with her,that's why I chose to do the dinner then!!! Bm is disgustingly entitled to think that we should reschedule all of our guests for "another day"...dh let her know we WON'T be rescheduling. Great..now I will have a sulking dh to deal with if Bm doesn't try to accommodate our plans,and if she does, sd will be returned to us right in the middle of our busy holiday,looking totally feral and homeless.i don't think bm ever brushes sd8's hair. Just needed to vent..