bm and dh are going to try to have either a mediation or a court date soon to finalize the custody order and he found out today from his lawyer that bm is asking for a few thousand 'for all length of time this has taken' BS!!! His lawyer is going to send him all her requests pretty soon so he can see for himself. but if anything, DH should be the one asking for money from her! If she wouldnt have kept sd away from him for 6 months he wouldnt of ever had to hire a lawyer to try and get visitation! he asked for information from bm (where/what sd's school was, a copy of her medical card just in case something happens when we have her etc THINGS HE SHOULD HAVE A RIGHT TO ANYWAY AS A PARENT!!) she said NO and went and got a lawyer, for WHATEVER reason. If she would of just agreed to give him the information this wouldnt of been drawn out so long! He was finally able to see sd's progress reports and what not (bm sent her lawyer papers that had *some* info he requested, but still no medical cards) so he has talked to sd's teachers and found out what she needs help with. She is somewhat far behind and i dont think bm works with her on her skills. We had sd for 10 days (shocker bm actually let him see her, but i think its because she wanted sd out of her hair since its summer & her summer school didnt start till this past monday) so he worked with her EVERYDAY even sometimes twice a day on her alphabet and words she needs to be able to read.

bm called him today to say sd got kicked out of school yesterday (shes in summer school to try to catch up) for the day -got into a fight when some boys bullied her and she slapped her teacher supposedly- and when bm scolded sd that sd just laughed at her and thought it was funny. dh talked to sd and told her how disappointed he was in her and that she needs to apologize to everyone and next time tell the teacher before it gets out of hand, she actually started crying. I think she knows it was bad and she doesnt like to disappoint daddy. dh doesnt take crap from sd which i am thankful for. bm also said that sd is doing better in school.
I think sd gets along better and listens better to men. She does atleast with dh's friends too. Its not that she doesnt listen to me, its that i have to repeat myself a few times or use a stern voice which can get old too, but he tells sd that she needs to listen to me.

and it was funny too, when we met with bm at the drop off point on sunday, bm had her hands out to sd and and yelled 'child's name'! like she was so happy to see her (im sure she was but... anyway) sd just walked to her and didnt hug her or anything LOL EVERYSINGLETIME dh goes to pick up sd, she ALWAYS has ran to dh.I think bm expected sd to to that her since it had been 10 days since she had seen her. I wanted to laugh. Dh only sees SD EOWE, so its a little different and maybe if he got to see her more, she might not run to him everytime. I almost felt kind of bad for bm. ALMOST but not quite.