I think I may have figured out why BM is being so cordial lately. Apparently she has gone behind-the-scenes to re-route the child support payments through the state board of child support enforcement instead of through the courthouse like it was. In turn, they have called in all of the back child support that is owed all at once instead of tacking a small portion of it onto the regular monthly payment like had been previously agreed upon. We got a bill in the mail for upwards of $3k which has us reeling.

BM has been suprisingly easy to get along with the past couple of weeks. I think that she has realized that instead of complaining and griping about things all the time, it's more constructive to address them in an adult manner. We've discussed Christmas presents for SS and for each other through SS, and she even brought up SS getting ME something for Christmas! I was shocked! I really hope that this attitude has bled over into her home life and that things are easier on SS too now that she has decided to be more cooperative and less psycho.

This last visitation has been worse than most of the others, and I fear things are only going downhill with her. Lately, every time BF calls to talk to his son he's told "Don't call here again or I'm calling the police". We got a letter the other day from her lawyer stating that BF supposedly called her 40 to 50 times over the course of the last visitation and it was considered harrassment. It went on to say that BM and her attorney are trying to keep BF out of legal trouble. It also said that BF was encouraging his son to tell BM lies and threatened to beat him if he didn't.

BM finally pushed BF over the edge and he decided that he's not going to take her crap anymore. He wants to start gathering evidence that will help him in suing for more custody of SS, and hopefully flip the situation 180 degrees to where he's staying with us most of the time and visiting her on occasion.