Arg!
So DD and I are planning to get married out of the country this April and have been planning to take SD 15 and SD10. Tickets have been bought, rooms reserved only one problem. BM has sole custody and needs to give us written permission which we have been asking her to do for about 3 months.
BM and kids do not know about our wedding plans; this has been billed as a family vacation. In fact I have not been properly proposed to because of her non-reply. We feel once she finds out relations will get worse (if that is possible).

I have had to remind DD multiple times to send her yet another email asking for the letter. She's asked and we have given her the dates multiple times and she has just stalled. This past Tuesday DD went to BM's house to give SD15 shoes she wanted for 1st day of school. I printed out a typed letter for her to sign, with the dates and and location and DD left them with the shoes. BM just had to sign and send the letter with one of the SDs to our house. No letter. In fact neither SD ever saw the letter.

I am fed up. I told DD and SDs that the trip is canceled. Am so frustrated and disappointed. I am unwilling to have this woman control my life with her wacky control issues; even if it means changing our wedding plans. DD is willing to wait till the last minute on issues like this and often gets the short end of the stick because of it.

He said he will get the letter tonight. We shall see. Trip is off if no letter by tonight.